Can't speak too much to the transmission fluid. I had a transmission, xfer case, and diff service done by the dealer at 60K. Like you, I don't tow a lot and I have 93K on it now with no problems and no shavings on the magnet. I wouldn't think that the type of transmission fluid would matter as long as it meets or exceeds ATF+4. But I will admit that I'm no expert on that either. As for the oil change interval, I had the same question when I first got my '03 as well. A tech at Fleetguard (a. k. a. Cummins Filtration) recommended an oil and filter (preferably a StrataPore) every 6K no matter what your driving habits are and a fuel filter change every other oil change. I follow that religiously along with Fleetguard StrataPore filters and Valvoline Premium Blue 15W-40 oil on both my '03 and my wife's '04 2500. Both run really well and haven't had any problems.