More opinions from that cattle guy
Everything you're thinking abount changing, should have already been done. I wouldn't worry about it too much, unless you're pulling really heavy (20k+).
The fastcoolers are OK, I've got 'em, but don't know if I need them. I kinda wish I had a temp probe before and after the install to know how much they really help. I pull heavy a lot so I figured the extra fluid is a good thing.
Mag-Hytec... looks cool, but if I had to do it over again I'd get a PML cover. Mine's not a show truck, I just wanted a drain plug and a PML would suffice. Also, I think powder coating retains more heat than bare Al. other than cost, I have no complaints about the Mag. I don't have one on the front yet, but that's where a drainplug would be really nice. Sooner or later I'm gonna accidentally bump the torque setting on the impact and twist off one of them lovely little bolts and Oo. :-{}
Oils... I used the Mopar stuff in my NV5600. I don't know nuttin' about the other oils available. I put Amsoil in the T-case. Says it works, and it seems to be OK so far. I put Cenex 75w-90 in the diffs. I've used this in my last truck and in this one, along with Mobile too I think. Any 75w-90 should work fine, as they are ALL synthetic (that's why they're 75w not 80w).
Oh yeah. Don't forget the latex gloves. Seems like these wonderful synthetic oils are harder top get the smell off you hands. Mine usually stink for a couple days. Maybe I should think about using soap... :-laf