You won't accomplish mush fluid warming in park at all because there is no cooler flow at all in park. Along with no cooler flow comes no converter fill/charge. Why does DC do this? They have designed their trans for years like this for some stupid reason. If you look at the owners manual and on most of the trans dipsticks, you will find a note to check fluid level in neutral, not park because of this.
Good news is that most good aftermarket shift correction packages and valve bodies have some sort of modification made to get converter charge and cooler flow in park.
As for a delayed lockup and/or 4thwhen cold, the PCM looks at quite a bit of info to determine when to give it to you. Trans fluid temp, engine coolant temp, and calculated loadare all taken into account to determine when it will give you lockup and 4th. Hell, if DC PCM programming is anything like Ford's, then there may be a lot of different calibrations floating around in different trucks all across the nation.