Well, let me jump in here

First of all... Great Questions!
The engine has to be turning at a greater RPM (in Drive) than the transmission for the stator to multiply torque. You are also asking about fluid coupling. ATS furnace brazes/welds and reinforces the Turbine & Impeller which makes fluid coupling tighter. But I'm not a trans expert. If you want a better explanation about ATS fluid coupling call them at 800-949-6002 Clint or Carl can answer these questions much better.
Stators:
I don't know any company anymore who is milling the stock stator by putting it in a vertical axis milling machine, or chucking it up in a lathe and lopping 1/4 inch or so off the front of the blades. As I understand it, at least one company did this several years ago, and the unintended side-effects produced such horrendous results that it gave a bad name to "milling" stators.
That said, the good folks at ATS do take a stock stator and go at it with a CNC machine. I was just at ATS 2 weeks ago and saw their CNC machine in action. Pretty awesome. They take the stock stator, in which the stator blades look kind of like a fat teardrop in cross section, and program the CNC machine to cut compound curves into both front and rear of each individual blade, to produce a curved spoon instead of a fat teardrop. It moves MUCH more fluid. Moving more fluid means faster accelleration! Stomp the pedal on any ATS truck, and you can feel (& hear!) the immediate difference.
I don't know of any other company with the ingenuity, resources and engineering talent to come up with this. When you add the stator design to the TripleLok design, and add in the other brilliant inovations Clint and Co. came up with you can see why I maintain ATS has done the most thorough job of engineering of any of the trans builders out there.