I can't speak for the thrust washer weakness. But the pressure thing is true. Most auto's are not designed for having a load on them at low to zero throttle. The line pressure is too low to hold the load. The cure for that is something like the BD pressure loc with the towloc or similar controller. It overides the throttle pressure and raises the line pressure in the trans.
Some transmissions can do this through electronics, our older dodges require linkage to do this. I don't know what DTT or the other big name builders do to combat this. I'm sure there is something to cure it.
As for the billet shaft, it's not a must, but it is recommended if you are going to be doing locked shifts. I believe some of the controllers do downshift locked to locked and that can be pretty hard on things.
If someone wants to link or provide information about the thrust washer issue, I'm all ears, as I have rebuilt my own transmission once and will probably be doing another one here soon.