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You're gonna have to use a valve of some kind if you want to shut it off at all. I have a 50 gallon aux. tank in the bed of my truck, with filler cap through the canopy, and the outlet through the bed of the truck. Here's how mine is setup.
I have a valve of some sort that has 2 inlets and one outlet... it's supposed to be a switch between two tanks, but one of the inlets is plugged off, therefore making it an on/off for the aux tank. It gravity feeds into the main tank via a nipple that comes off the front of the filler tube, about 10"-12" down from the cap. The on/off switch is activated by a 12 volt continous on/off toggle switch in the cab... . I believe this is basically used as a break, but I'm not sure... I didn't install the system, or know who did, and I haven't really looked at it too well until today. I'm in the process of installing an LED light onto the switch in the cab so I know when it's on or off. I'm just waiting for my plate for the cubby hole from Eric (in the classifieds) so that i can put it in. Oh, the light is so that I don't overfill my main tank anymore... which brings me to my next point...
yes, it will overfill and spill if you leave it on overnight or something with too much fuel in the aux tank, if it all won't fit in the main tank. My Grandfather (previous owner of my truck), did this twice, putting about 30 gallons of diesel on the ground. I've done it once, but only dumped about 3 gallons on the ground, hence why I'm putting the dummy-light on.
If anything, just put a manual ball-valve on the outlet from the aux tank so you can shut it off if you want, otherwise you'll have a mess.
Hope I helped some. Josh