I bought one on ebay. Took quite a bit of work, but it went on there and is working fine for the last 3 weeks. I had the HY35 like you, and was having serious issues with EGT's towing in the same conditions with the same load you are talking about. I have an Edge with attitude monitor and could peg the 1350 EGT alarm in the stock setting while towing with regularity. I posted in another thread about a guy looking for a cam in more detail.
The replacement was an HY35W? It's a lot bigger, came wiht a 14CM exhaust housing and a machined intake wheel. It's a little laggy right on the bottom, but it's driveable with no more issues than the factory turbo, just a hair more lag. My EGT's dropped from 380+ at idle to 305-340 depending how long I let it idle. In gear at idle it's around 425-440, whereas the stocker was 450-500.
I can now put my edge on 5, empty, and run through the gears without hitting the alarm. It gets pretty close, but with the stock turbo I couldn't even get through 2nd gear. Sometimes the alarm would sound in 1st gear.
BTW, my Torque Converter is an aftermarket with a lower stall, so adjust accordingly.
I also believe the truck has a lot more power now. Very little smoke, even at low rpm. Much lower EGT's and what seems like at least 1-2 MPG at cruise, with lower EGT's and boost at low load.