What year truck?
2010
What transmission?
68rfe
What gears?
3.73
What tire size?
Stock
What studs did you use? .
Xotic Performance head studs.
Deleted? Of
course 
What are you running for a tuner?
Absolutely
What fueling and timing?
I'm not sure. It's whatever the programer defaults to. It's a RaceMe tuner.
Do you have defuels set?
Not unless the tuner does it.
What injectors and how old are they?
Stock injectors. 230k miles.
Are you ONLY seeing surge tank air and overflow towing and after a period of time or ???
It's started out as over a period of time. Then I noticed it worse when towing. The last trip towing it pushed out a gallon in 50 miles. After that it pushed about noticably even when not towing, but much slower then when I was towing.
Of course you are going to see a whole lot more engine load towing 30k that you ever will hot rodding or even racing empty. That is the way a diesel works. At 30k you are pushing the limits of a deleted truck and no fire rings. EVERYTHING had better be spot on or on the low side or you will have HG issues. See the list of questions above, any one or a combination of several will cause a leak in an MLS gasket. The head is not necessarily lifting, the cylinder pressures can very well be pushing past the gasket because it does not have a fire ring to seal it.
You know everything has to be straight but did you check the block and make sure it was straight? Did you check the head on the rebuild to make sure it was smooth and straight?
I did not check that it was straight. I did stone it to make sure it was clean. I'm a machinist and engineer so I'm aware what it takes to get a clean surface. What I'm not sure of is if the surface can be to smooth. Why did you do a rebuild in the first place?
There was a severe oil leak behind the gear case that couldn't be fixed without tearing off the whole front of the engine. A then it started getting a slight amount of oil in the coolant and was bubbling in the radiator. Figured HG. Remember we cannot see or know what you have done, driving conditions, or anything else about the truck. You have to pretty much detail all the why's, what's, wherefores for us.
Please answer as fully as possible the above so we have all the info. I have been right where you are and learned a lot after researching and examining things.