Online Dating Services?

[Dieselnut59]

Have any of yall ever tried an online dating service? Any luck, either good or bad? I have checked profiles on a free one some www.plentyoffish.com and have chatted with a couple nice ladies from there, but nothing serious. I also recently checked out a singles site for Jamaican ladies. I think there are some BEAUTIFUL women in that country! Supposedly, they LOVE to marry men in USA? I don't know much about it, but I decided to send a lady an e-mail. Just curious if any of yall have done or heard of doing this? and what were your results?

thanks

John

 

[Mundgyver]

A strong recomendation of "Buyer Beware" is advised.

 

[CJ8Rockcrawler]

Met my fiance on match.com... . working out quite well so far.

 

[sardoghauler]

match.com

another vote here for match.com - take your time and build a solid, honest, appealing profile. It'll pay off.

 

[Mundgyver]

Not knocking them, but I agree, go slow and build the relation slow. I have had some friends that have not fared so well, sad to say.

 

[CJ8Rockcrawler]

Not knocking them, but I agree, go slow and build the relation slow. I have had some friends that have not fared so well, sad to say.

Definitely, this is important in any new relationship regardless of how you meet. I also think it is nice to "know" the person a bit before actually meeting them. We were talking for at least a month online before we actually met. In my mind, that's much better than the chick you could pick up in a bar that you know nothing about. Either way, online, or in the bar or anywhere else, you should be able to find out if the person is on the up and up about things fairly quickly.



Good luck to you!

 

[Headshot zod]

Defintely "Caveat Emptor". I know a number of people who have gotten married through the various services and I'm getting together the cash to start a few myself. I will suggest Eharmony if you are serious about getting married. You need to answer 400+ questions. Anybody willing to answer that many questions is probably serious about getting married.

 

[Alphacowboy]

another success of online hook ups here as well. I met my wife through Yahoo Personals. Its amazing how if you fill out a personality questionare on these sites, it then matches you to someone with the same or similar traits and life goals. You then go out with that person, and the first date can be so relaxed due to the fact you are both on the same page. You dont have those akward questions and worries about stuff such as the following:

1. )do they want to get married or are they dating for just fun

2. )do they ever want kids

3. )religious beliefs

4. )the big one... sex (wife and I had made a vow about waiting for marriage after a few mistakes in our pasts, so it was very cool to find someone on the same page!)

5. )and many other things, such as pets, where they want to live etc etc.



When I first met Angie, it was amazing. Now, we went a little fast, as we got engaged 2 months after we met, and married a year later, but I wouldnt change it for the world! Her and I just knew it was the right time and person! :-D I would recommend you do take it a little slow, but do be cautious. Angie was unfortunately not the first gal I met through the net. I dated on gal for 3 years... tried to make it work, and I had met her through the net as well... but I grew up since then :-laf . Basicly, if you are going to try the online dating game, DO NOT go into it as a desperation to find someone... this will get you in trouble! Lucky I didnt marry that first gal, it would have been a disaster! After that, I decided, if things work out, they work out, and NEVER try and force somthing to work, it just isnt healthy, and sure as hell is no fun!



Angie and I have been married just about a year now, and all is well. And, dont worry, not all internet gals are ugly! :-laf Just ask the MNTDR guys, my wife is pretty hot! :-laf But I did go out (one date thankfully) with a couple others before I met her, and pictures sometimes lie! (we need more smileys on this site, especially the puking one! :-laf )

 

[AKDrifter]

A couple of years ago I went through the classis "get of the airplane and can't recognize her in a sea of people" OMG !!!!!!!



Have her send a pic with the NY Times current edition in front of her while standing in the post office with the date clearly visible in the backround.



It was worth a good laugh though... . just too bad I spent 3 months on the phone with her from AK not knowing the truth.



As Mundgyver said... "buyer beware".



Paul

 

[Dieselnut59]

Yea, I have chatted with several ladies online, then they were totally different in person. The reason I decided to check into the Jamaica site is because I think those ladies are beautiful. I have heard they are also truely loyal and really like us guys in USA. I dated a black lady for a while before, but met her in country dance hall (bar). We got along well, but she has three children, by three differend guys. TOO much drama for me! She was a fun lady and very beautiful, but just had way too much baggage for me. I do want to have a child someday, but want it to be my own. If I met an exceptional lady, I could live with her having one child, possibly.

I agree, the great thing I have seen about internet dating sites (as yall mentioned) is the profiles. It is nice that you can know a few basics (children, age, thoughts of marriage, smoking, entertainment and even politics and religious beliefs) about the lady before you even contact her.

I appreciate yall's positive inputs. I just want to find a good lady to chat with, get to know and see where it leads. I will let yall know how it turns out!