Queestion about stepkids and adoption

[EricBu12]

Hey all,



getting married in September 8, have a question about having new stepkids and step grandkids. .



My new bride is 12 yrs older than me and has 3 grown boys... 33, 28, 24. . all have wives and or kids. youngest is single with 2 kids.



How old is too old to be adopted? and can you adopt when they are married? this would change the last name of the son so the wife would have to change too. . is this allowed?



Could I only adopt the 24 yr old since he is single? and what about his 2 kids?(as to their last name?).



I've always wanted a family but more important, I wanted a son to continue the family name. . my brother has 1 boy to do that and that is it...



is any of this do-able? or right? thanks to any insight or ideas will be appreciated.

 

[scootergmc]

Google is your friend:



Utah State Law on Adult Adoption -



Utah Code -- Title 78 -- Chapter 30 -- Adoption

 

[TRAMPLINEMAN]

I understand where you're coming from, but I have to ask. Why would this 24 year old want to change his or his kids last name? Does he not want to carry on his last name? Not trying to start anything, but I know if my mom ever remarried I would NEVER change my last name.

 

[EricBu12]

The youngest had no respect for his bio dad or any other Step dad he had. (drunks and abusers... )... I have known him only a year and he says I am more of a father figure than any of them so he would accept it and change his kids name to be the same...

I am going to try this. I don't think the others will do it because of being married and one of the grandkids has ties to his bio father so the youngest will be great.

 

[p-Bar]

My step kids range from 24-36 yrs old. I started with them when the youngest was 7. The real dad is a flake but they know who's there for them. Name change on older kids is kinda weird, I wouldn't push it. Love my step grand kids. God speed with your marriage.

 

[TRAMPLINEMAN]

The youngest had no respect for his bio dad or any other Step dad he had. (drunks and abusers... )... I have known him only a year and he says I am more of a father figure than any of them so he would accept it and change his kids name to be the same...



I am going to try this. I don't think the others will do it because of being married and one of the grandkids has ties to his bio father so the youngest will be great.

Understandable. Good luck with the adoption and marriage. I hope everything works out great for you.