When I tighten the bolts I work from the center out to the edges. I start with the top-center bolt, followed by the bottom center bolt, followed by the first top bolt left of center, follwed by the first bottom bolt left of center, followed by the first top bolt right of center, followed by the first bottom bolt right of center, and so on.
I torque all the ones that are accessible with a torque wrench to 30 ft-lb. The ones I can't reach with the torque wrench just get "snugged up" with a boxed-end wrench.
Using the stock covers, my front axle took 3 quarts, rear took 4. Specification is 4. 75 pints front and 7. 65 pints rear. I filled until it to the bottom of the fill hole in front, and just stopped at 4 quarts rear (wasn't quite to the bottom of the fill hole).
I recommend just buying a case of 12 quarts. Use the leftovers on the next change.
Would it be worth it to take pictures next time I do mine and post a procedure? It'll be spring before I'm due again...
-Ryan