I think if you're breaking GVs, you're doing something wrong. I have a '99 3500 with a Gear Vendors. My total loaded weight when my camper and trailer are on is over 22,000. I use an exhaust brake. I have injectors, a tuner, and a hard-hitting built trans with triple disc.
You just have to know what you're doing. The Gear Vendors is plenty stout in the forward direction, its only fragile under reverse torque. All you have to do is turn it off when exhaust braking, it isn't fragile under reverse torque when not activated. And why would you want to be in OD when trying to slow down on the exhaust brake anyway?
You probably won't be in OD when towing really heavy either, although sometimes I use mine loaded heavy on flat land. With 3.55 gears I can't see why you'd ever be going so fast with a big load to need it anyway.
Really I don't see why you'd want it with 3.55s. The Gear Vendors is a .79 OD, that would make your gearing effectively 2.80.
I have 4.10s, the GV brings me to 3.2 gears, much better for driving on the freeway empty. With 4.10s I'm at 2000 RPM at 60 MPH (stock size tires) and 1500 when I hit the GV.