Whether it has 2 rear tires or 4, it's still a 3500 with a heavy-duty leaf pack, so it's never going to ride like a luxury sedan. It's also not going to get much "softer" without compromising its designed capabilities... something you don't want to do especially when you're going to max it out with the slide-in on a regular basis. Airing down will help a little. Unless you want to go to adjustable shocks like Rancho 9000s, I would not change the shocks because you'll regret it when the slide-in is over your shoulder. And 9000s on their lowest setting won't ride any softer than OEM, according to Rancho. From what I understand, the factory air springs (and remember, they're supplemental on the 3500, not primary like the 1500 and 2500) is not something that can be adjusted because its primary purpose is to promote leveling and stability - the leaves still handle the weight. It's too late now, but your better bet would have been to order a 3500 without the factory air, then go with a full-replacement aftermarket air system for the rear axle which you could easily set for the load variations. There's really not much you can safely do and still have the truck in proper condition for the slide-in.