What would you do??

[mgoncalves]

I have an opportunity to buy a HVAC company in my old home town up in Wyoming. It's totally turn key, is where I first started in this trade and helped build into a nice company.



The problem is my girlfriend isn't to keen on moving back home. She'll graduate in May as an elementary teacher, and we are planning on getting married sometime after that. I've always said I wanted to move back where my family is but she still wants to be as far away from there as she can.



What the heck should I do??

 

[Rebel_Horseman]

I agree with Dl5treez. I recently made the decision to move for work purposes and my girlfriend at the time supported me in that move. It also too that move for us to figure out that we were not meant to be together. We talked about marriage and all that, but I think that separation will let you see just how strong your relationship is. Looking back, I should have know a long time before I moved that I was not meant to be with my ex, but it took moving to open my eyes. This sounds like a perfect opportunity for you in relation to both work and where you want to be. If it were me, I'd go for it. Talk to her, and if she loves you she'll see just how much it means to you and she will support you and move too. If not, you'll be in the same boat I'm in now... kicking tires but with less bills.



Brian [><]

 

[GiesJ]

I would say get your a** back to wyo but sound like your lady friend ain't gonna dig it. There's the no state income tax thing, the quality of life, the cost of living, and good old fashioned people that look out for each other.

Plus, we've got Whitemore!

shoot me a pm some time and let me know how it's going... j

 

[Dane]

Good careers are hard to find...

 

[Doc Tinker]

One thing for sure, your business will suffer if you don't have the full support, and possibly personal involvement, of your spouse. Assuming that she will someday be your spouse.





Doc

 

[TPCDrafting]

I second everything Jason said. BTW, where in WYo are you talkin' about? The scared sheep squadron is always looking for new members

 

[mgoncalves]

Thanks for the advice guys. I am still tyring to figure out what to do. My head says yes and my dam heart says no, we talked about it last night and she is just worried there is nothing for her up there. I've got a month to think it over, so I'm not going to make a rush decision anyways.



Tim, we're both from the big town of Worland.



Jason, I'll shoot you a line when I get back from Vegas tommorrow.

 

[TPCDrafting]

You might have her look around a bit, there are typically shortages of teachers. The pay in Wyo as you well know isn't great, but typically teachers aren't in it for the money. It's amazing how many youngsters finish grade school here and bail asap. Me, I couldn't wait to get here and leave all the traffic and rude people moving into the CO front range.

 

[illflem]

Maybe a search will find a location and opportunity that is agreeable to both of you.

 

[Mike Ellis]

If I was serious about the gal, and knew she was the one, that would play mighty strong in my decision. A good woman by your side is priceless. However, it is the husband's responsibility to make the big decisions like this, if she is already saying "no" then you may be looking at some big problems down the road. Yeah I know that isn't politically correct, but I am an old fashioned kind of guy.



After sitting in the dunce corner in the school of hard knocks for quite a few years, my honest recommendation is: Do whatever you think will make you the HAPPIEST (not to be confused with wealthiest, most independent, etc). Be straight with her, tell her what you are going to do, and go fullbore which ever way you choose.

 

[AKAMAC]

I had the opportunity to go into biz for myself in Washington. The X (now) was all for moving back to Ca. Be true to yourself... . The cards will fall any damn way they want but you will be better off shuffling the deck. Good luck!

 

[baby.driver]

Where do YOU want to be ten years from now?

Twenty years?

Thirty?

If your girl does not see herself in the same places in those time periods as you, you should part company.

Marriage is a single road going to the same destination. If you don't both see the same vision then... ... ...

Wishing all the best.

Jay

 

[JSmith]

Go home. Woman is like a Dodge truck, you can always get another one. If your dreams are not the same problems will exsist. You will have it in the back of your mind, I could have.



Been there, done that :{

 

[Whitmore]

Matt, this is a tough one, My dad told me years ago that you should do what you like and like what you do and that is very important to be happy and want to go to work each day, I know this oppertunity is in the same line of work you are currently in . Worland is a nice town and also has Tensleep and Thermopolis needing services too. Owning your own business is also something to look at strongly, if you are of the right type of person it can be very rewarding with hard work, also is there enough work there to support your goals? Winters up here can be long and cold. As far as the relationship with your spouse the both of you MUST have the same interests and goals, sounds as if she is very familar with Worland and knows what it has to offer so she may be baseing her decision on past experiences there. A good woman is hard to find and if you think she is the one than you need to have a heart to heart with her on the future of both of you and your goals as well. I for one would follow my woman anywhere in the world as we are a team BUT she would also consider my goals and dreams before she were to make a step. What ever you decide make sure it is what both of you want. I will also tell you that moving around and starting over is expensive so a commitment on location with longivity would be in your best financial interests. Wyoming is a great state to own a business and has quality people and the best part is no husstle and bustle from over crowding, I very much enjoy the solitude Wyo has to offer and and I for one look at the quality of life here as a definate plus.



Be happy and good luck with whatever you decide.



Cheers, Kevin

 

[dpuckett]

I, too was in a similar situation a few months ago, though there were a few more complications than you have told us about in your relationship. I want to work hard, get out of debt, own my own business, have a place with horses and barns, etc. I also know it will take a LOT of hard work to get there before I'm 60. She was more into "just being loved," and just getting by was enough for her, "as long as we had each other," which, frankly, drove me nuts. Not only was it the beginnings of a bad country song, if she wasnt willing to help me, and work beside me, I'd be better off without her holding me back; just as she'll be better off without a harda$$ telling her to quit whining about working 50 hours a week. Point is, I'm only 24, and have figured out this- YOU have to look yourself in the mirror every morning: YOU have to live with the consequences of your decisions, it is YOUR life, live it by YOUR terms. True, a good woman is hard to find. But if you have radically different ideas about what you each want out of life; or if she doesnt want to help and support you, then she may not be good FOR YOU. Not to say she wouldnt be good for someone else.



Personally, I cant stand most of my family (too in touch with their emotions and wear them on their sleeves), but I'd jump at the chance to own a business doing something I'm good at and enjoy, and could earn a living at.



BTW, where in Loveland are you located? I lived there a few years ago, and wouldnt mind moving back to the area, though I like the Springs, too. Hopefully moving back REAL soon.



Daniel