Found the problem, or at least part of the problem. I did try swapping the relays, but after I got my meter out I found that the 30 amp starter circuit fuse was bad. Swapped it with another, and it blew. Got replacements, jumpered the starter one and just "bumped" the starter, then put the new fuses in, been working fine, I've started it several times, but I'm sure curious why it blew in the first place.