You said you've been towing 25,000 lbs for over 20 years legally with a srw truck? I call BS. They haven't had srw trucks with enough gvw until recent years. NO srw truck in the 90's could legally pull 25,000 lbs.
OEM GVWR is not a legal weight.
Depends on your def of "legally".
If you mean by the sticker on the door, then no, could not be done.
If you mean by what the state laws governing weight say, then yes you can, as they are ONLY concerned with tire and axle weight on the road, NOT with what the mfg says.
Precisely.
If you see any truck with a slide-in and a trailer (sometimes not even a trailer) it's over the MFGR GVW. A friend has a 2007. 5 DRW and a Lance 10xxS (not the biggest one), with a dry camper min food, etc it weighs 12,100 on the scales. The GVWR from the factory is 12,200, so anything added (beer, water, trailer, etc) would put him over the 12,200 OEM GVWR, but he's not illegal if he has the tires and most importantly what he has paid for.
The same is true with most SRW's towing any decent trailer, I am in the 10,000-11,000 GVW with my trailer hooked up and some stuff in the bed.
I've personally hauled a good sized camper while towing cars etc with both a srw and a drw.
Don't even consider the srw, you will regret it. Unless it is a tiny popup camper, it is absolutely night and day difference between the two. White knuckle crosswinds with a srw won't even phase a drw, add in a heavy trailer to the mix and it multiplies.
I have a 30' long, 8' tall enclosed car hauler (wind sail) that would tend to wag some behind my srw, even with a sway bar. Same trailer behind my drw doesn't wiggle a bit with no sway bay. Difference? Sidewall flex on the back end of the pickup, which gets even worse with a heavy camper. Add a crosswind and it gets downright dangerous.
Remember with a slide in you have move your ball mount even further back which magnifies any shimmy in the truck to your trailer.
If you are getting an extended receiver, go straight to torklift, far and away the best. Don't waste your time and money trying other units like I did.
I have a 29'3" TT that is 10'11" total height. I have towed it at 70 thru gusty and sustained crosswinds in excess of 30 mph. Reading your post I should have been white knuckling. That couldn't be further from the truth, the camper has zero sway, zero wag, and is extremely stable. I haven't ever towed it with a DRW, but I can tell you there is no room for improvement with how it tows right now.
If you have a 30'x8' camper that sways you have other issues that need to be addressed.
The only time I ever felt any sway was slow speed forest service roads with sharp off camber corners, the weight of the camper would cause some body roll that was easily fixed with a truck sway-bar.
For our camping trip this past weekend we had 2 rigs with slide in's. One was a 2500 with 3950 lb/tire 285/75/17's, a big-wig swaybar and airbags. The other was a 100% stock 2007. 5 DRW. Both were ± 5200 FAW ± 7000 RAW. Guess which one has less sway at low speed, and winding roads at 55?
It is possible to have a stable and easy to drive SRW, it does take a little work to the truck thou. But sometimes a DRW won't work, so you adapt your truck to work. There is no reason it cannot be as stable.
A DRW is the easiest answer for slide-in campers and any amount of towing, but sometimes that's not a possible option. But even based on a DRW there are additions that are needed such as airbags, sway-bar, etc.