Parentless.....

[Deleted member 995608]

So my mom died early yesterday morning and I'm now parentless. I was planning on making the 5 hour drive to go see her today but got the phone call yesterday morning so I dropped my plans and headed out. It's fees really weird with both my parents gone. My Dad died just before my youngest girl was born and never got to see her. That broke my heart. Anyway, just bummed today. My Dad was cremated but my Mom never let go of his ashes. He wanted to be let go into Collins Lake in Nor Cal. My mom wants cremation also, so once that's done, I'm gonna let both of them go together here pretty soon. Life is a real B##CH

 

[GCroyle]

JHawes,

That's a tough one and my sympathy to you and family. I wish all of the family peace and thanks for all the parents did.

Best regards,

Gary

 

[Wayne M.]

Prayers and condolences.

 

[Regcabguy]

I lost both of mine in four months in 1998. It was tough.
I think about them daily.
Best wishes.

 

[TFucili]

So sorry to hear that.

 

[fest3er]

My condolences.

Mom died in '01; Dad died--he went to sleep and ... stopped--a couple years ago while I was helping him shower for the first time. Wait. No, it wasn't his first bath; it was the first time I helped him. One of the EMTs was hooking up the EKG and said, "Hey! I'm getting a pulse!" The other looked at him and said, "That's his pace maker." I had to laugh, because it was the sort of exchange that would've had both of us laughing. He was 90, and had had his aortic valve replaced a couple months eariler; he was a tough old bird, and looked younger than his years.

Remember the good times and the laughs and the Mom-isms. And remember that any time you have questions for either of them, just look in your own heart and the answers will be there.

 

[jhenderson]

Sorry to hear. My father died when I was 23, my mom 20 years later. I still miss them both every day. Nobody understands until it happens to them.

 

[BIGNASTY]

I will make this short if you even read it at all. This is from Festers Post and I find it SO TRUE its scary!!!

"Remember the good times and the laughs and the Mom-isms. And remember that any time you have questions for either of them, just look in your own heart and the answers will be there."


BIG

 

[jgillott]

My prayers are with you at this time.

 

[SnoKing]

Sorry to hear about your loss.

My father found he had Parkinson Disease when he was 62, he lived with it for 19 years just putting one foot in from of the another. He was down to not being able to swallow food and it was his time to go. I miss him dearly. Mon lived another 5 years.

I was very involved in the final end of life decisions for both of them, while my brother was on the over side of the country. That hurt almost as much as loosing ones parents, having him not make the effort to come home to help with the decisions.

So hang onto those fawn memories from past times, they will help you through this initial period.

SnoKing

 

[DavidC]

Very sorry to hear of your loss. Remember the good times as it helps to offset this tragedy. There is not much anyone can say or do to help your pain I am sorry to say. Time will help but your thoughts will last your lifetime.

Dave

 

[TMyers]

Sorry for your loss. I lost my mother when I was only 15, she was only 37. It really hit home when I out lived her! I believe in God and that he has prepared a place for us. I plan to see my mother again.

 

[Deleted member 995608]

Appreciate the kind words fellows. Last year, my mom had a fall that resulted in a light hip fracture and required surgery. Sometime during her hospital stay, she had a mild stroke. She never really ever got back to normal and was bed ridden since. I'd give anything to have her back but I'm also glad she's free of the stupid bed as she was a very active lady. Thanks again guys.

 

[TFucili]

And remember that any time you have questions for either of them, just look in your own heart and the answers will be there.

So very true!

 

[B.G. Smith]

Sorry to hear of your loss. bg

 

[DaveHess]

JHawes I am very sorry to hear of your loss.

 

[Deleted member 995608]

Thank you

 

[Tractorat]

Sorry for your loss. I lost my mother when I was 13. My dad died in 96. Ive always tried to have the attitude that as long as you remeber them they are still alive in your heart.

 

[Killer223]

i think there is something wrong with me. Was this unexpected? how old?
loosing parents is never easy. i lost my mom 12 year ago, she was only 50. lost my dad 2 years ago at 70. was ready to loose my mom, loosing dad sucked.
Anyhow my condolences. Talk to them. They an hear you, if only in your thoughts.

 

[mwilson]

Sorry for your loss JHawes. My thoughts are with you.