Just a guess, but you probably need one of these. Maybe two. I always carry one as a spare ever since having to lift the hood and push the lever up at the Canadian border check point.
https://www.genosgarage.com/product/lb-ss70a/fuel-system-accessories-replacement-parts
Your thinking the relay is bad because the solenoid stays up when manually lifted and ignition on? That would save me some money because I figured it was the solenoid..
I'm considering making a manual pull cable. Its hard to believe no one makes a fss delete kit. What would be nice is if you had to activate it to start also to prevent theft instead of only the pull kill.
I can't remember if it is red or blue.
I wish the description explained how to jumper the solenoid at the plug where the relay plugs in.