I have a 3. 73 auto with 35" BFG tires. If I were to do it over again, I'd go with 4. 10's with this setup.
However, if I weren't going to upgrade tire size, or went with the stick instead of the auto, I'd go with 3. 73's for my uses (mostly empty, some towing now and then). But I think the auto needs the 4. 10's for towing. In overdrive with the big tires and 3. 73's, I am doing 75+ to just do 2,000 rpms. Since I prefer to tow at 65-70, it just bogs down on hills. Dropping down to 3rd gear is really dropping too far.
So IMHO, towing heavy or big tires + auto = 4. 10's, otherwise I'd go 3. 73's.
I'm hoping that power upgrades will solve my problem, I really don't want to re-gear. . It cruises so nice empty.