Man this makes me mad! I went through the same thing, and I know exactly how you feel. In fact, my truck may be one of the fixed trucks you are talking about.
Make your dealer take the scientific approach!
I'm an Engineer so I asked the dealer if they had a vibration analyzer (it's a device with one or more accelerometers and a FFT (Fast Fourier Transform) analyzer). The service manager stared me in the face and said 'NO'. However, one of the mechanics standing in the back of bay overheard me and said "yeah, we got one of those". To this day I believe the service manager knew they had one but also knew that vibration problems can be a can of worms, so he didn't want to deal with it.
After I convinced them to put it on my truck (located on the trasfer case near the rear output) we got a reading of about 50 Hz and 1. 2 G's. We then put the analyzer on a different truck and also got 50 Hz but only . 17 G's (don't remember if these numbers are exactly right but they are in my old threads). Anyway the dealer said "see, they're the same... your tuck is fine, big trucks just vibrate. " I argued with them till I was blue in the face that the G level was waaaay out of bed on my truck. But they just kept looking at the frequency and telling me everything was the same.
BUT that 50 hz, which equals 3100 rpm told me something very important. Whatever was causing the vibration was turning 3100 rpm at 70 mph. That doesn't leave much. The output of the transmission, the transfer case, and the driveline.
In my case the driveline angles were wrong and I fixed it myself. Dealer claimed they checked the angles NOT! Also, believe it or not, but the manual is actually WRONG. It the mechanic follows the manual exactly when adjusting angles he well accomplish NOTHING!
Hang in there Hoot and don't give up. PM me if you want some of the info I have or if you want to talk on the phone.
Oh yeah, I almost forgot to mention that a good resource is the best 4X4 shop you find close to you. Someone that does lots of high quality lifts. They deal with vibration and driveline angles all the time.