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(mods, feel free to move this to the politics forum, but I posted it for the rest of the members to once again bash Kalifornia, pretty much how most of these threads end up)

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No-spank bill on way

By Mike Zapler

MediaNews Sacramento Bureau

SACRAMENTO - The state Legislature is about to weigh in on a question that stirs impassioned debate among moms and dads: Should parents spank their children?



Assemblywoman Sally Lieber, D-Mountain View, wants to outlaw spanking children up to 3 years old. If she succeeds, California would become the first state in the nation to explicitly ban parents from smacking their kids.



Making a swat on the behind a misdemeanor might seem a bit much for some -- and the chances of the idea becoming law appear slim, at best -- but Lieber begs to differ.



``I think it's pretty hard to argue you need to beat a child 3 years old or younger,'' Lieber said. ``Is it OK to whip a 1-year-old or a 6-month-old or a newborn?''



The bill, which is still being drafted, will be written broadly, she added, prohibiting ``any striking of a child, any corporal punishment, smacking, hitting, punching, any of that. '' Lieber said it would be a misdemeanor, punishable by up to a year in jail or a fine up to $1,000, although a legal expert advising her on the proposal said first-time offenders would probably only have to attend parenting classes.



The idea is encountering skepticism even before it's been formally introduced. Beyond the debate among child psychologists -- many of whom believe limited spanking can be effective -- the bill is sure to face questions over how practical it is to enforce and opposition from some legislators who generally oppose what they consider ``nanny government. ''



``Where do you stop?'' asked Assemblyman Chuck DeVore, R-Irvine, who said he personally agrees children under 3 shouldn't be spanked but has no desire to make it the law. ``At what point are we going to say we should pass a bill that every parent has to read a minimum of 30 minutes every night to their child? This is right along those same lines. ''



One San Jose mother of three said she believes spanking is a poor way to discipline children, but she also wondered whether a legislative ban makes sense. Should a mom who slaps her misbehaving kid in the supermarket, she asked, be liable for a crime?



``If my 6-year-old doesn't put his clothes in the hamper, I'm not going to whack him. He just won't get his clothes washed,'' said Peggy Hertzberg, 38, who teaches parenting classes at the YWCA. ``I think instead of banning spanking, parents need to learn different ways of disciplining and redirecting their children. ''



Lieber conceived the idea while chatting with a family friend and legal expert in children's issues worldwide. The friend, Thomas Nazario, said that while banning spanking might seem like a radical step for the United States, more than 10 European countries already do so. Sweden was the first, in 1979.



Nazario said there's no good rationale for hitting a child under 3, so the state should draw a ``bright line'' in the law making it clear.



``Why do we allow parents to hit a little child and not someone their own size?'' asked Nazario, a professor at the University of San Francisco Law School. ``Everyone in the state is protected from physical violence, so where do you draw the line? To take a child and spank his little butt until he starts crying, some people would define that as physical violence. ''



It's unclear how a spanking ban would be enforced. Most slapping, after all, happens in the confines of a home, and most children up to age 3 aren't capable of reporting it.



Doctors, social workers and others who believe a child has been abused are required by law to report it to authorities. Nazario said he and Lieber are still debating whether to treat slapping the same way, or simply to encourage those who witness it to report it. But in either case, said Lieber, the law ``would allow people who view a beating to say, `Excuse me, that's against the law. ' ''



Experts in child psychology disagree over whether spanking is a legitimate or effective way for parents to discipline their children. Professor Robert Larzelere, who has studied child discipline for 30 years, said his research shows spanking is fine, as long as it's used sparingly and doesn't escalate to abuse.



``If it's used in a limited way,'' the Oklahoma State University professor said, ``it can be more effective than almost any other type of punishment. '' He added that children 18 months old or younger shouldn't be spanked at all, because they can't understand why it's happening.



As for Lieber's proposal, the professor said: ``I think this proposal is not just a step too far, it's a leap too far. At least from a scientific perspective there really isn't any research to support the idea that this would make things better for children. ''



But Lieber is optimistic that lawmakers will find her proposal hard to resist. For the record, she does not have children and says she was not slapped as a child. But she does have a cat named Snoop, which her veterinarian told her never to hit.



``And if you never hit a cat,'' Lieber said, ``you should never hit a kid. ''


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Personally, I've hit cats. And Lieber is whacked. Like I've said before, cut off the bay area and some of socal, and you'd have a great state!!





edit: Some of you probably thought it was already illegal to spank your kids in CA. Well, it's not. Just don't leave a mark. :D
 
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I too have hit cats. I've also kicked them and run them over. I've also spanked my child and probably will again. My parents spanked my brothers and I when we were young and I'm glad they did. Being hit with a Clog, wooden spoon or leather belt will remind just about anyone to "NOT DO THAT AGAIN".
 
TRAMPLINEMAN said:
Being hit with a Clog, wooden spoon or leather belt will remind just about anyone to "NOT DO THAT AGAIN".



extension cord was used 90% of the time for me... ouch



the worst one i got was the cording used in window screens [just over 3/16" round, hollow & ribbed] man did that leave a welt. . once that one came out, i knew i wasn't sitting for a few days
 
I didn't even read all of the first post and I dont care too. Who the heck do these democrat idiots think they are? Trampline man, you said it perfectly. . My brother and I got the occasional belt, spoon, backhand (whatever was in reach) and you know what we are better off for it. We both had doctorates by 24 years old and are tax paying law abiding citizens. Our neighbors on the other hand got time outs and were never wrong. It was always the other childs fault that they did something stupid. Lets just say they haven't succeeded nearly as much as we have. Reality smacked them in the face when they got old enough to realize mommy and daddy couldn't bail them out of all the mess they had made.
 
Can't really say that I did get a paddling that I didn't have coming.



Well... . maybe one and that was with a three foot wooden paddle with holes my brother made in shop. It was modeled after the Gym teachers paddle. I told him he was crazy for bringing it home. He was the first to taste dispensed justice :{ . The first time I got wacked with that weapon I snuck in, stole it, and threw it away..... no one ever said a word. :-laf I think Dad was happy it was gone too. ;)



I didn't have to paddle my kids much. I laid it out that such and such behavior would have to stop or such and such would be the consequences. Made good on my word. They became believers in what Pa says is what Pa means... . simple... same as I was brought up.
 
This is just another example of the "woosification" of our country. This is why everything is so messed up. It's ok for our kids to listen to "crap music" and glorify being a ghetto gangster. Oh yeah and god forbid they should say the pledge of allegiance in school. And what kind of an idiot would teach their kids something harmfull like hunting or shooting sports. :rolleyes: Oh yeah, and dont correct your children when they do something wrong because it might damage their self image. B. . S. .
 
If parents spanked their kids more often we wouldn't have "Super Nannies" on tv traing the parents how to discipline their children. But than again maybe we should ask DR. Phil
 
Experts in child psychology disagree over whether spanking is a legitimate or effective way for parents to discipline their children. Professor Robert Larzelere, who has studied child discipline for 30 years, said his research shows spanking is fine, as long as it's used sparingly and doesn't escalate to abuse.



``If it's used in a limited way,'' the Oklahoma State University professor said, ``it can be more effective than almost any other type of punishment







Glad to see that Oklahoma with our Southern Values still feel that a spanking is a good thing. Got kids and do spank when needed.
 
Spanking and Beating are completly different. Spanking is what you give your kids or someone you care about. Beating is what you give to someone you don't care about.
 
JPereira said:
Spanking and Beating are completly different. Spanking is what you give your kids or someone you care about. Beating is what you give to someone you don't care about.



Agreed, now the real problem is a law like this is worthless. "beating" a child is illegal now, so how is outlawing spanking going to stop children from being "beaten" It wont. It just gives these idiots another way to stick their noses into the business of law abiding citizens.
 
Personally I don't think teaching kids that a violent act is the correct answer to a problem. Growing up my parents simply removed privelages. I recall at a young age leaving the amusement park as soon as we arrived as I wasn't behaving. A couple times like that I knew my folks meant what they said. If they had simply swatted me I would have learned that I could misbehave in exchange for a little temporary pain. Not being able to ride my bike, or play with my friends for a week was far more motivation for me.



I have seen many times that kids that are spanked tend to act more phyisically aggressive towards their siblings and friends. After all since mom and dad do it, it must be o. k, right?





Just my 2 cents.
 
Dad was right

Dad was right... kids want and beg for discipline, they just don't know it when they do it! I did allot of begging when I was a youngen and it would be a shame to take that away from kids today.
 
GFritsch said:
Personally I don't think teaching kids that a violent act is the correct answer to a problem. Growing up my parents simply removed privelages. I recall at a young age leaving the amusement park as soon as we arrived as I wasn't behaving. A couple times like that I knew my folks meant what they said. If they had simply swatted me I would have learned that I could misbehave in exchange for a little temporary pain. Not being able to ride my bike, or play with my friends for a week was far more motivation for me.



I have seen many times that kids that are spanked tend to act more phyisically aggressive towards their siblings and friends. After all since mom and dad do it, it must be o. k, right?





Just my 2 cents.





Not to discount your opinion, because that's not what I'm here to do, you should work more with "troubled" youth. You'll find that the majority of physically violent kids tend to come from abusive parents, either towards one another or to the children, or they come from broken homes (without the influence of a good father). Even as much, domestic violence between parents is contagious when children witness. They see it, and the model it, to everyone. Proper spanking isn't the cause.



In my opinion, the booming prison populations and surge in crime over the last few decades is the result of a breakdown in family values and the "mommy and daddy" raising children in a loving, respectful, home oozing with discipline.



With that said, spanking is OK, until they get to a certain age... Without getting deep into child psychology, I would say once kids reach a certain age, I dunno, 8, 9, 10, spanking becomes an ineffective tool and other forms of discipline or punishment, such as loss of privilege, grounding, as you mentioned, become more effective.
 
I could post countless articles and reasearch saying the opposite, in my favor, etc. , but it would be a futile argument. We're not going to agree.
 
God said it. Reckon thats a good enough source for me

*Proverbs 22:15:Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.



*Proverbs 23:13: Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.



*Proverbs 29:15: The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.



*Ephesians 6:2-3: Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
 
I am not here to try and change anybody elses opinion either, as nobody else will change mine. My opinion on this matter comes from being on the business end of a wooden spoon. Like I said earlier, my brothers and I got spanked and I grew up with other kids who got spanked. Not saying it's the foundation of our lives, but we've all done pretty well for ourselves. I also knew kids who were treated with the other method. The six of them that I grew up with all turned for the worse after they moved away from their parents. Four of them are so deep into drugs I barely recongnize them anymore and the other too guys are a little too happy for my liking. Maybe it's just coincidence, but I'll take my chances with my parents method.
 
When we took a child birthing class back in the 70s, the instructor mentioned that she was often asked at what age to start spanking the child. She responded that most people at least wait till the baby is home from the hosipital. Starting at 3 years old would be pointless.
 
Granted some kids should be given a swat from time to time.

If there isnt any correction measures, just think what the kids are going to grow up like. IMHO, they are going to be in worse shape then the generation that is coming up now.

Personally, I think the person that came up with this "law" was swatted on the wrong end.
 
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