Fueling while idling in a diesel doesn't concern me much. My main issue is, what will happen if the parking brake pops off? A few have reported having this problem. So I try to do it only if the pumps are level and a roll-off unlikely.
Fueling a gasser, using cell phone while fueling a gasser, those are different issues. There was a safety bulletin at work recently - gas station fires/explosions go up dramatically in cold weather because folks fueling get back in car, then slide out when the pump stops. Whether the engine is running or not, one static spark from sliding across that seat sometimes does the trick. I mention this not for this group, but for your spouses and kids who may not have ever heard it and might be driving gassers. Tell them!
And if you're not at the big-rig pumps, remember, you're next to a gas pump, even if you're not using it, they guy on the other side of the island might be.