If you want to hear about Death Wobble, check out the JeepsUnlimited Grand Cherokee forum. Just about anybody with a lifted Grand Cherokee knows about it. The front end of the ZJ/WJ and the Rams are the same design. Some people will tell you they drive an old CJ (leaf springs) without a steering stabilizer that doesn't have this problem, so there must be something wrong that the stabilizer is just covering up. Maybe so, but coil springs lend themselves to this phenomenon in a way the leaf springs don't. No comparison. Coil sprung front axles wear out steering stabilizers - replace em every two years at least.
My first experience with death wobble (in the Jeep) was at 65 mpg while towing a 5000-lb trailer. I thought I ran over a chunk of 4x4 wood and it stuck to my tire. Holy cr@p it's un-nerving. It's happened a few times since, and each time, attending to one of the items on the hit list below tamed the problem for a while.
Hitting certain bumps in my 6-month old Ram, I can feel the propensity for death wobble. Probably the steering stabilizer is keeping it under control since all parts are relatively new and not abused. Looking forward to Bilstein shocks though.
Unfortunately, there is no one cure. Anything loose (worn) in the front suspension or steering is a contributor.
The hit list:
1. Steering stabilizer
2. Trackbar (worn ends)
3. Tires - out of balance/round
4. Alignment - adjust it now, adjust it later, conditions change.
5. Ball Joints
6. Control arm bushings
It's an eye-opener, or should I say sphincter opener, when it happens the first time. Do something about it, it'll help with the confidence.
Good Luck,
Neil