They are certainly closer, but not as close as you want us to think.
When you can hear and see a difference on cold starts and hot runs then they are not that close.
That's not really a fair statement either, conventional and synthetic oils are not as far apart as you want us to believe. In fact a conventional group three oil is a synthetic.
Since 1999 I've owned 6 Cummins Rams and 1 Hemi Ram and 1 Ecodiesel Ram. Never have heard any difference running boutique Synthetic, group three Synthetic, or Conventional oil and at times my vehicles can sit for 2 weeks or longer until startup.
I don't know how you see a difference in startup.
The only difference in hot runs that I know of is oil pressure and oil pressure is not always a determining factor of sufficient lubrication. If you can tell a big enough difference in heat your engine has bigger problems than what oil you run. I personally have never seen the drop in engine or oil temperature claimed by synthetic oils.
At the end of an engines life you might be able to see some spec differences but the engines are dead so what does it matter or you have already sold the vehicle so what difference does it matter. It's never been proven a synthetic oil run engine lasts longer then a conventional oil run engine. I point out my experiences come from a region where temperatures range from +100*F to -40*F. In 60 years I've used a lot of different oil and experimented with a lot of oils in farm tractors, highway tractors, trucks, pickup trucks, cars, Motorcycles, high performance cars, diesel engines, gas engines, 2 years gas engine tech school, and a host of street/barnyard engine tare downs and swaps. I speak not from factory propaganda but from life experience.
With all that said there is a place for boutique synthetic oils just not so much needed in conventional engines. If you want to run boutique synthetic oil it's certainly not going to hurt anything but your wallet.