Divorce Finalized

[Gary - K7GLD]

All good info above - but mark your calendar, regardless of what healing method you select - or avoid, it will take *2 years* for the wounds to heal.



Sorta "been there, done that" - and the above is what a counselor told me - and it was right on target!

 

[fkovalski]

I have never been married, but I got my heart ripped out a week before Christmas 2 years ago by a woman with whom I had a serious relationship... never- the- less... it hurt like no other experience!



My only advice is this: eat right and exercise.



It has helped me.



Best wishes to you in the new year my cyber friend,

-frank.

 

[kenny61]

I just got this in an email and thought maybe it would help if you could understand them better

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I'm having problems posting it big enough to read if you click on it you should be able to read it

 

[DaveHess]

That's hilarious Kenny!

 

[kenny61]

Nothing fixes all them crappy feelings like a good laugh. Well theres always that monica lewinsky thing but you would have a better chance at getting you ex to help you with that than me :-laf



Have another laugh and call me in the morning...

 

[kenny61]

Keep this on your desk and imagine her in the convertible and you driving the truck and who ever else you don't like working for the clean up crew... .

 

[pullya]

Kenny,

I'm think'n you need some kind of adult supervision

Jay

Thanks for the chart and cartoon-----

 

[kenny61]

Yeah, Yeah Yeah, Thats what the judge said too... .

 

[GHarman]

Looks like S$#**y day on the horizon

Keep this on your desk and imagine her in the convertible and you driving the truck and who ever else you don't like working for the clean up crew... .

NOW THATS REALLY FUNNY!!! GregH

 

[p-Bar]

Dave I think your wife did a disservice to your kids by not sitting them down and telling them the way it is. My ex poisoned my kids and 13 yrs later I still have no relationship with my son and the last words I heard out of his mouth was **** you . I have a bit of a relationship with my daughter only because she wants me to buy insurance from her guess it's better than nothing. The key is send Christmas, birthday cards I was putting checks in but when no thank you I went back to just the card only. I think a larger Christian Church that has an actual " counseling" staff of professionals are the way to go . I believe it's all in God's timing.

 

[kenny61]

I'm not divoreced but I've been involvrd in hundreds if not thousands od them and have seen all (almost) of the wicked tricks people play on each other. A gift of a check or money will almost always be turned into "your father / mother thinks they can buy your love" the bigger the gift the more ticked off the other parent will get. without personal involvement the child will beign to believe this. My suggestion is always send a gift the child no matter how old can use it shows that you actually took the time to be involved in their lives. Only send cash/check if they request it.



I never know what to get for my wife so I wrote her a check once for her birthday... Not good!!!... I now drive my rear to her favorite store(s) and buy a gift card. She is always happy with her presents now... go figure

 

[Grizzly]

DaveHess, I don't know if it's been suggested since I didn't read all the posts, but joining a good support group does help. You can check with a church of your choice for all support groups. Also, get involved in church activities.

 

[Hammer]

Dave...

After three years in the midst of a very ugly and messy divorce I understand what your dealing with as I was married for 26 years. The kids are also dealing with it their own way and will come around you just have to take what time they give you and make the best of it. The mian thing you need to do is ALWAYS remember to keep them OUT of any part of the divorce and its discussions and let them ask you for the info they need,when they need it. My attorney gave me that advice and I was shcked when she said it but isolating them from the divorce was the single best thing I did. My ex tried and tried to make them believe that I was a worthless POS but I never said one bad word to them about her and when they spent time with me it was about them and not what was going on.



As for feeling lonely,thats something you will get used to they say. I still hear every creak and groan in my empty home and at times its tough to walk by my kids rooms and see them empty. You draw from your inner strengths and lean on your friends when you get down and life will get better... ... ..... Andy