Maybe I got it wrong - I thought I needed to pull out the dust cover pin, and re-insert the ECM pin. I'll check it again tonight. PAC has been very good to me, and sent me a replacement pin. The indentations in the pin look different from the one with the kit, and maybe this one will latch.
I have not replaced the pin yet, because the truck is in the shop. Apparently (there are many threads on this topic), there is an obligatory front-end rebuild at about 40k miles. When I did the most recent oil change, I noticed the steering gear was leaking hydraulic fluid. Checked it a bit further, and found that the trackbar was also loose. I'm having the gear replaced, and may have a stabilizer bar added. Also having a Luke's Link put on the trackbar. I'm a tad "non-plused" about the value engineering in this area of the vehicle, but it is what it is. Fortunately, there is a good supply system of aftermarket components available, which are of higher quality than OEM. Funny, though, because it doesn't steer any different than when new. Which is to say that it didn't steer that well to begin with.
I'll take a look at the ECM pin connector again tonight. For the last couple of days, the pin stayed put, and I have been able to cut my use of the service brakes by about 2/3. I'm not sure how I ever got along without this equipment!