"Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards. "
Don't be blinded, Love struck so to be, and rush into marriage. People rarely show their true colors, who they are up front. We tend to live behind false fronts, afraid of what others might think.
We're quick to overlook flaws and see the best in one another before marriage, do the same and more afterwards. None of us are perfect.
I told my wife I was close to perfect, because I've only made one mistake. That's when I thought I made a mistake, ... and I really didn't. She replied, . . yeah right, and laughed.
In any relationship, ... get your eyes off yourself, and strive to see and understand the other persons view point, ... be quick to listen and slow to speak. Looking to serve one another, rather than to lord over. Applies to even a CEO of a large corporation!!!
Recipe for disaster;
This is MY Castle, I'M on the throne and this IS the way it's going to be!
Love is not about getting what you want, ... it's about giving, understanding, compassion, mercy, grace.
You want to be happy? Become a dispenser of GRACE.
Love is a decision, an action, ... not simply a feeling.
Galatians 6:1
Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.
Philippians 4:8
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, ... honest, ... just, ... pure, ... lovely, ... of good report; if there be any virtue, ... any praise, think on these things.
Lastly, ... Remove the word, Divorce, from your vocabulary, it's not an option.
Married 37+ years, 9 kids 5 boys 4 girls, 18 grand-kids w/ one on the way.
And, ... I'm not perfect.
Congratulations and wishing you the Best!!!