Try setting cruise control when descending and locking in the gear you would have came up that same grade in.
12V98, I wish I had thought of that - I did limit to 4th during the climb up once slowed down (I waited for it to start feeling a little like it was lugging, though in Tow/Haul it never really got there). The only reason I slowed below our silly 55 mph trailering limit - which everybody, including most cops, reads as 60-62 - was some trucks who popped out into lane 3 of 4 and blocked me on the way up. But I was mindful of preferring it in direct rather than an OD gear pulling a grade. Glad the new trucks have 3.73s - not sure it would have felt as nice going down with the 3.42!
I once got a ticket for popping out into the number 2 lane (blocking nobody - my butt was clear for a thousand feet) on that very climb with a trailer I was towing with my old V-10 to get around some really slow crawling 18 wheelers who were running side by side in lanes 3 and 4. I was out and back in in less than 15 seconds or so, slowed nobody down, and didn't exceed 60, but I got popped by a CHP guy anyway, and it was a hefty ticket - so, nope, not doing that again...
Anyway, on the way down the north side, I had shifted to D, just kept the exhaust brake in auto, remained in Tow/Haul, came out of the throttle as i crested, and gave a gentle brush of the brakes as speed crept to 60 early on the descent. Left it in drive and let it shift per the programming, so I guess I've done it that way - will try to remember to try your method next time - it's sort of my "home" grade, living as I do just a few miles from the south end of it. It did downshift pretty promptly after the summit, but I have no idea when it dropped to 4th. That's the sort of time I find myself wanting the Edge monitor - Would like to see when the TC is locked/unlocked, what gear I'm actually in, etc.
More toys to buy, but not wealthy so will need to wait a bit...