Having more pain than ever in my life

[CSnyder]

I lost my wife of 3 years today in a head on auto accident and I am so hurt and confused and lost already. We have 3 children together with the youngest being 2 year old twins and I'm unsure of whats going to happen with my life from here out. I know I need to be strong for our children but Carrie always took care of everything and was always my shoulder to cry on and I haven't the faintest idea how to be a mommy. I've shed enough tears today to fill a small ocean and I REALLY need some words of encouragement to help me survive the worst hurt of my life.



Chris

 

[jgillott]

I think that I can speak for almost everyone here in saying that our thoughts and prayers are with you. Please let us know if there is anything we can do. God bless. .

 

[biggieou]

Chris,

I can't even begin to tell you how truly sorry I am to hear of your loss. Things will be hard before they get easier. Be strong, if not for your children, but for your wifes memory. If you ever need anyone to talk to about life or trucks or just someone to complain to, I am more then willing to help you out feel free to PM, email or call me anytime. God Bless you and your children Chris.

 

[Cummins Pilot]

My condolences, may god be with you in your time of grief.

 

[klenger]

You have 20,000 friends here at the TDR who are supporting you. Continue to be strong.

 

[Paychk]

Right now you're thinking there is no way to go on, but there is. At times you'll be completely overwhelmed & stressed out, but with the help of friends, family, prayer, and the passage of time you'll make it. Tears help with the healing, but talking helps too. Don't keep it inside all the time.



some links for help:



http://www.lighthousedad.com/

http://www.singlefather.org/forum/

http://www.scfn.org/

http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/



Don't forget there is a good chance that someone here or at the above sites has or is going through your footsteps, I pray that you'll find a friend to lean on.

 

[J Shocik]

Chris, I wish I could write or say something to make you feel better. I lost my dad a few months ago and that was tough, but suddenly losing your wife, I can't imagine losing mine...

I'm sure you'll hear all the time honored cliches. I did. I saw it as friends just trying to help. I pray you have friends helping now in your time of need. As time passes and you still need help, don't be afraid to contact local agencies like the United Way. That is what they are there for. Along with your friends here... May God help your family now in your time of need. John

 

[JoshPeters]

Chris,

I'm very very sorry to hear about your loss. I was at a wake tonite and will be at a funeral tomorrow for a friend of mine. I know how I feel and can only immagine what your feeling.



If you need anything, let me know. The MNTDR as well as the TDR will be there for ya.



Josh

 

[hammersley]

Chris - you're on our prayer chain at church

and I've added your name and situation to another website of 15,000 with many many more praying for you..... believe me God will get you through this time that you have no idea why it happened... ... .



Chris - are their other relatives around that can help you and i not do you attend a church??? If not let us know - we'll see what resources that are available to help you... .



What town do you live in or nearby????? My wife's oldest relatives live in Sabula Iowa, on teh river near Clinton... ...

 

[BTighe]

hang in there man. just remember, we as members of the TDR are here to help each other. trucks, life, or whatever. please, if you need to get something off your mind feel free to type it here, were listening. god bless you.

 

[tsi_2baad4u]

I don't know what to say other than we're here for you, praying for you and your children. I lost a friend a few years back who died unexpectedly and left behind a wife and triplets about 1yr old. It will be a tough road for you for sure but as long as you have the kids and the kids have YOU to help them, you'll make it. Just be there for the kids, helping them will help you too.

 

[RBergman]

what ever you need just ask and dont stop asking untill you and your children get it.

 

[cguthrie]

Chris, i'm so sorry to hear about your loss, all of us are here for you. My prayers are with you and your kids.



Chris

 

[RT66DOC]

We are with you Chris. God Bless your wife, you and your kids. He never gives you more than you can handle and we here in TDRLand are ready and eager to help in any way.

 

[MN Cummins Lvr]

Chris,



I got goosebumps as I read this. I am very very sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. Please let me know or PM me if there is anything I can do. My prayers are w/you and your family.



Paul

 

[Ol'TrailDog]

Chris,



Really sorry to hear about the hard times you are feeling. When my first wife walked out on our marriage it took years to recover from the pain -- still loving her and my kids, but not being able to touch a cold cold heart. Sometimes I was so lonely and choked up that I thought hell couldn't be worse.



Time does heal. I made some personal life decisions that have ended up dramatically changing my life for the better. First, I had to get my life on God's plan - not my own. Plus, I was fortunate to be able to help my kids get started on this priority in life.



Eleven years later I married a woman in the church I was attending who had lost her husband suddenly - she came home and he was dead of an anuerism. She was as lost as you are currently feeling. Her daughter and my daughter were friends and in time God worked it out for all of us.



Bottomline is pain happens, ask for his help dealing with the very real pain, and trust him to help you work it all out. He will -- I know.



edit: PS: sorry if I sound "preachy" to some, but I can't help telling what He did for me.

 

[Mike Ellis]

Chris, I am so sorry to hear of this devastating loss. May God bless you and your family and help you through this time of grief and pain.



I wish I had some wisdom to offer you, but there are no words to make such pain go away. It will always be with you, until the day you meet again. As impossible as it may seem in this dark hour of grief though, that day WILL come. Until then, the immediate future will be tougher than anything you have ever faced, but remember that part of her will always be with you. Love makes bonds that death cannot sunder.



Our prayers and thoughts are with you Chris.

 

[CMullen]

A little prayer that may help

Chris, First of all my deepest sympathy for your families loss. I know it feels like the earth has fallen away and your footing and your sense of strength has disappeared.



A thought...



" Lord Help me to remember that nothing is going to happen to me today that you and I together cant handle"



My Father held on to those words until the day he died last February, and i have held on to them since.



they are a true comfort to me, and I hope for you as well





God Bless you and your family



Chris

 

[GFrance]

I sit here in tears as I read this & grieve for your loss. Be strong my TDR friend for the good Lord will help you through this difficult time. I know it must be overwhelming you now, but in time the pain will lessen & you have three little ones that need your love more than ever.

Be strong for the children & don't try to get through this without some grief counseling. My families prayers will be with you.

 

[hammersley]

Chris - from an acquaintenance of mine.......

For your help in prayers - I posted this on another site - and Marcus responded to me with a PM.....



I Pm'd this because I don't want to post it publicly. I lost my wife, 2 year old son and baby daughter to a drunk driver a little over two years ago. Tell your friend that although it never goes away, with time it becomes more bearable. Trust in God, and you will get through it. I'll pray for him.



Marcus