Everyone has an opinion as to what works best to clean the surface. Some use Scotch Bright, some use very fine sand paper. Some say this will contaminate the cylinder walls with grit. Some like to use a scouring pad for dirty dishes with a little parts cleaner. I use the Scotch Bright pads mounted to a 2" adapter and 90* die grinder. There are several different grades [textures] to choose from. You won't need anything too awful coarse to polish the surface.
Use nothing on the gasket, it's self is enough, unless recommended by the manufacturer.
Scott