You are looking at the problem back wards. The shocks are there to control oscillation, they are not designed to carry weight. There job is to allow the suspension to go Thur it's normal range of motion, in a controlled manor, and having it settle back down smoothly and quickly. I also pull a heavy goose neck (15,000+), and yes I know about the overloads slapping there stops, on every bump. In order to achieve a smooth ride while pulling your trailer and while not, the best option I have found is Air Bags. After several years of experimenting, I have found that by removing the overload spring pack, and installing a good HD 5000lb air bag, the ride is unbelievably better, and the bags are more then enough to support the weight.
The Dodge comes with a very heavy duty rear spring pack, they alone can handle much more then most realize. The problem with the rough ride stems from the overloads slapping against their stops. This happen while empty and going over a speed bump, or while loaded and the springs are much closer to their stops which makes them hit with the slightest of bump. Removing the overloads illuminates the slap, and gives the necessary room to mount the HD bags, at the center of the axle like they should be mounted.
Al I can say is the ride is so much improved you would not believe you are in the same truck, I think the ride is even better then most half tons. I have found that while driving empty, I can run 35-40 psi and the ride is velvet smooth, that is just enough pressure to take the weight of the truck off the springs and allow the air bags to soak-up all the road. When loaded, I run 50-55 psi and the truck sets level and has a fantastic ride.
I also run a quality shock (Bilstien), while they are not designed to carry a load, a good shock will definitely help control the ride which results in a better ride. Good Luck.