I'm a little worried? Might be down to two vehicles...

[rjohnson916]

My father in law is driving us crazy, we just got married a couple months ago, got a new home... etc... Well my wife was given a new Pontiac G6 sedan about a year ago from her folks. It was a gift free and clear! My wife was in college for fire protection and doing a lot of volunteer work not earning a dime & now works full time and makes pretty good $$$. I on the other hand have my own business, have done very well for my self in short order, together we do all right but are not rich or are getting rich. Her parents seem to think so and are demanding we now all of a sudden pay them back for the Pontiac. I drive an '07 Tacoma as my "Work Truck" and my wife is driving my Diesel now. We are considering selling this car and giving her folks the money back, or just giving them the car back all together. My question is, my wife drives 12 miles to work and we just had the power steering, alignment, and new tires all re done to the tune of over $1600. 00 last month. The dealer said the U-Joints & Ball Joints are lose but within DC specs, the truck has 50K miles on it. Would it be smart to turn our '05 2500 4x4 Quad cab into a daily driver at this stage of it's life or are we asking for a money pit and $$$ repair bills from here on out. This truck has been very reliable for 48K miles and I would be lying if I didn't question the integrity of this Dodge product. I can't give her my Tacoma as I need the mpg advantage where I put over 120+ miles a day on, and I know that truck as I've owned five can do 280K+ miles without requiring nothing but oil & gas.



-Ryan

 

[HOBrian]

In laws#@$%! I would drive the G6 over there house drop it off an buy a used ( I know she might not like used, but for 12 miles why buy new) If her parents are asking for the money, they are going to be all OVER you and the wife. Example: Why did you just buy this, you do know you still owe us X amount on the car right?



just my . 02Oo.

 

[mhlbr]

if they gave it to you as a gift and there is no contractual obligation that you have to pay them for it, go tell them to pound sand. Sounds like there "good deed" wasnt after all. I am sorry to hear that.



As far as the daily driver, I wouldnt change a thing just because somebody all of a sudden thinks that you have money and that you should now pay them for something that was originally a gift.

 

[AKaiser]

if they gave it to you as a gift and there is no contractual obligation that you have to pay them for it, go tell them to pound sand. Sounds like there "good deed" wasnt after all. I am sorry to hear that.



As far as the daily driver, I wouldnt change a thing just because somebody all of a sudden thinks that you have money and that you should now pay them for something that was originally a gift.

That's fine if you don't care about keeping peace in the family. Sometimes you're better off doing what you are not required to do to keep the peace. Now, if there are other "issues" with the inlaws, then maybe a polite "pound sand" is appropriate. If not, I guess it depends on how much your wife values her relationship with family. I'd tell the wifey to do what she thinks is right (since it's her parents) and that you'll back her 100% whichever way she decides.

 

[mhlbr]

That's fine if you don't care about keeping peace in the family. Sometimes you're better off doing what you are not required to do to keep the peace. Now, if there are other "issues" with the inlaws, then maybe a polite "pound sand" is appropriate. If not, I guess it depends on how much your wife values her relationship with family. I'd tell the wifey to do what she thinks is right (since it's her parents) and that you'll back her 100% whichever way she decides.

very true, i have had horrible runn-ins with the outlaws so I guess i am a little partial, sorry, i retract my comments.



BUt you are correct. Support her 100%

 

[CSkal]

Whose name is on the title to the G6? If it is your wife's name, then it's her car regardless of who paid for it. Do as you wish.

On the other side, if it is in your in-law's name, drop it off as suggested before. Let them do whatever they want with it. They'll have the car and any obligation that goes with it. Ignore the $1600. Just go get another vehicle.

I am currently learning the hard way that any asset gifts or business between family members without a written deal is a :-{} down the road. My personal argument has gone beyond the family members and into the public... :{ #@$%!

Best of luck for a peaceful resolution.

 

[JCasper]

very true, i have had horrible runn-ins with the outlaws so I guess i am a little partial.

BUt you are correct. Support her 100%

I here you with that one. Most of the time with us it is my wife against my parents. She has good reasoning though.



rjohnson916:



Do what you need to to make your wife happy and keep the peace. Years of arguing and your wife not being happy over this are not worth any amount of money.





Good luck.

 

[Steve St.Laurent]

What does your wife want to do? Since it's her parents I'd go with whatever she wants to do with it.

 

[CDonaldson]

Your wife knows more about them and what their 'deeds' represent in both the long and short term. If she has not been atune with this type of manipulation possibly having taken place in the past - wakeup call if she considers it AND does have recall in that direction with other things.



I suggest that possibility of a scenario because I have experienced it with my own family, my father was a very serious gameplayer when it came to 'gifts' then down the road wanting repaid for his gifts. I finally realized the control games, manipulation games, and had a few bad years with my father over all of this stuff.



It probably would be a good idea for your wife to make the decision as to how to handle the problem with her family. You need to just support her choices. If it were me, I would get her a decent used vehicle, something more suitable and economical for the daily driving.



I have a Miata for my run about, bought it used, it has been a real good investment. Literally has not cost me anything but maintenance to operate. Real FUN car, good gas mileage.



CD

 

[TowPro]

Looking at this from the other side (I always do), you say the g6 was given to her (new) about 1 year ago. Having a Daughter, I can see how they bought something that they felt would not leave her on the side of the road late at night. I remember when I first meet my wife. Her parents had bought her a nice (used) ford escort. Problem was they had bad credit and were paying through the nose for the car. But my wife was working plus going to school so she was making the car payments.

Things to keep in mind.
you don't want to cause friction between your wife and her family, it will come back to haunt you!
Once you have a child, your wifes relationship with her mom will change, plus its always nice to have a baby sitter you trust.

With that in mind, talk to them. Not knowing the whole story, they might be making payments and it might have them strapped for cash.

If they are making payments, offer to take them over. If its paid for, look up the value on kbb.com and see if that's a fair price to you, I mean why sell it just to pay them, or give it back if you plan to buy another used car. You already have a used car and you know its history.

Do what ever it takes to keep the peace between her and her parents. Even if your wife thinks her parents are wrong, it will go a long way to straighten out this problem before it gets bad enough that they hate you forever.

 

[Gary - K7GLD]

It's true you may want to stay on good terms with the in-laws, as well as your wife - but neither necessarily involves turning yourself into a floormat to be walked on!



I'd settle with the wife first, then whether she says keep the car, or give it back, I do so after an open and frank discussion with the in-laws, outlining exactly what your situation is, what you intend to do, and why.



Might save you from a long rocky road of similar "misunderstandings"... :-{} #@$%!

 

[bighammer]

I just gave my nephew a Pontiac Bonneville a few months ago. Maybe when he gets outa' college and is making some bucks, I'll ask for my money... . :-laf

Seriously, my inlaws were the type that weren't used to somebody saying NO to them. I stood my ground a couple times with them on different issues-- Once enduring ( ) months of silent treatment from them. All said & done though, I think they respected me more for holding my ground and looking out for my new bride.

It's sort of a gamble. Family squables are just no good. Best of luck to you.

 

[Matt400]

Sounds like a mis understanding obviously.

You should just ask them. . would they like the car back or would they like the money from the sale and get it handled.



Bickering over the idea you felt it was a gift will last longer than you want to know.

Are they still working or retired?

I could imagine how they might feel if you both are young and making good money while they are making payments on that car with a shrinking retirement income.



That may not be the case but its a scenario I just thought of that may have sparked the reason to ask for payment on the car.

 

[DWeiler]

#@$%! #@$%! #@$%! Family---had a p%$#ing match with the sister 11 years ago at my wedding(insulted the bride)---that the last time i"v seen or heard from her and never loose any sleep over it---life is too short to have my wife mad at me or forever lose the one that i want to spend the rest of my life with. Her side of the family are wonderful people---lost a sister but gained a ton more. If it can be sorted out GREAT---well done. Me and my sister no love lost there.

 

[JHardwick]

My father in law is driving us crazy, we just got married a couple months ago, got a new home... etc... Well my wife was given a new Pontiac G6 sedan about a year ago from her folks. It was a gift free and clear!



-Ryan

This sounds like an issue between father and duaghter. Steer clear of that :-laf

 

[jwilliams3]

1. Dont mix money and family.

2. Dont take handouts (see where it got you?)

 

[Jeepr]

I think he was asking for advice on driving the CTD as a daily driver. And if I understood you correctly, it is the CTD you just spent $1600 on (not the G6). You should have any serious issues with an 05 CTD with 4x,xxx miles. Let her drive it for the daily driver.



I also have an 05, and while I'm only at a little over 18,000 miles, this is among the best quality new vehicle I've bought (and there have been many).