Update. I just finished the passenger side and will give you my tips based on one time installation, ( one time doesn't make me an expert )
First, take note of the position of the connecting pipe- it has a bend and a long and short end - I suggest you mark where the top is and try to get it back in the same position - this also applies to the intercooler boot.
Clean the intercooler and pipe ends - a little bit of smoothing with an emery cloth.
Warm the boots in boiling water.
Put the connecting pipe into the intercooler boot and clamp it.
Install the intercooler boot and clamp it.
Install the silicon boot on the turbo pipe and clamp it.
Hopefully the connecting pipe is in the same position as before you started.
Now put the turbo pipe and silicon boot onto the connecting pipe - on mine I had to trim about a inch off the silicon hose (easy with a razor blade) to line up the turbo pipe with the turbo - connect the turbo pipe to the turbo - and lastly. clamp the silicon hose to the connecting pipe.
Warming the boots and making sure the end are smooth helps, but it's still hard to get them on but not as bad as I expected. Also bending the fender away from the boot is easy and gives you some room the clean the intercooler pipe. Clamping the boots as I suggested ensures they don't move when installing the other end - I learned this the hard way.
I will do the other side tomorrow -looks like it will be easier.