Thank you very much for the response. You take a stance and back it up with a detailed explanation. The forum nazis must be losing their mind.
Being a MT guy mostly, I didn’t know these details on the auto. What you say makes sense, I will try to do that going forward.
I did feel like something wasn’t right when I abruptly let off, transmission seemed confused/lost and then a gear would lock in not with a bang, but noticeably more harsh than a standard upshift.
As another guy mentioned, living in socialist Long Island NY, our highways get packed. Even in rush hour before traffic actually slow, the step before that is traffic still moving at 65-75 in a 55, but all vehicles including trucks are up each other’s asses... one or two car lengths apart. On top of that, on ramps can be very short. Do you have to build up speed very quickly and time your “slot” perfectly. This usually requires you go accelerate hard 75% throttle, and then instantly go from accelerating to a speed, to maintaining that speed, and sometimes even slowing down from that speed, which often ends in an abrupt dethrottle. I figured this has to be a common occurrence and part of rams R and D, so I didn’t think that doing that same thing for recreation would be that bad...
It’s good to know that I should try, within reason, to avoid going from large load to no load scenarios.