"but why would you let your granddaughter look over your shoulder if you were on this site and in the Other forum and you know there are things here that you wouldn't want her to see? "
Sorry to be so blunt - but THAT has to be one of the dumbest questions/comments yet on the subject!
Am I to assume MOST of you hide yer 'puters in a closet, and lock the door when you use it - just in case a family member happens to walk by and see something they shouldn't while you use it? Wouldn't THAT behavior in ITSELF raise a few suspicions?
As for THIS house, our 'puters are out in the open, for all family members to use - and I suspect that may be true for LOTS of households - I frequently use the upstairs 'puter in the family room while the rest of the family (our youngest divorced daughter and 2 grandaughters live with us) is watching TV - maybe to be safe - and allow other more adolescent users here their "freedom of expression", I should now restrict MY board use to a "secure" location? OR expect other family members to leave the room when I go online?
GET REAL!
That's much the same as expecting the rest of the family to LEAVE the house when some of yer less inhibited "friends" come to visit, lest they be exposed to conduct or language you don't like them to see/hear...
This board, on MY computer is a GUEST in my house - and like any OTHER guest, may prove to be either a welcome visitor, or an offensive. unwelcome one - if I choose to NOT have guests using poor language and behavior in my home, WHY would I want the same stuff unexpectedly showing in my 'puter monitor, or expect other family members to avoid watching when I am online?
IF/when THIS board becomes offensive, or members abusive, it/they will join the ranks of a number of other, similar people and boards that no longer are welcome here - I sure HOPE that doesn't happen here - I really like and appreciate most of the folks, and what goes on here - but just a FEW "bad apples... " Can surely spoil a barrel... And a tablespoon too much salt can spoil a good pie...
Now, *I* am NOT attempting to "force" my morals or opinion on ANYONE - couldn't if I wanted to, *I* don't run this place - but that IS my opinion, just the same! I learned a long time ago that *I* can't change ANYTHING that goes on here on the internet - it's much like going to what you hope is a nice, quiet restaurant - and when you get inside, you find it to be a bit more rowdy than you like or expected - so in spite of what appears to be good food and prices, you simply tell the owner or waitress that this isn't the sort of place you thought it was, and LEAVE - you certainly won't get anywhere attempting to get the rest of the patrons to conform to YOUR personal standards or expectations - and many of them were there first - and are obviously enjoying themselves, regardless of how YOU feel!
I'm not HERE to "change" anything - and when/if it gets too rowdy for me, I'll use the clear and easy option available to me, and LEAVE (and I'm a LONG ways from that!) - I've already given the "proprietor" my own views on the subject, because we were ASKED for our opinions...