OK folks... . got the fluid changed!!
Had to drain the pan through the port for the pan temp probe, took the plug out and transmission fluid shot back onto the skid plate

Got fluid all over everything

Got most of the fluid out and took off the pan... spilled the rest of it
put another container under the trans so that the residual fluid would leak into it... about a 1/10th of it hit the container
Took the pan over to the workbench and heated up the inside around the plug bung with my heat gun... corkscewed two more allen wrenchs and leaned my arm onto the heat gun
screw the plug... . went back to truck and drained the TC through the drain plug on it... that actually came out like it was supposed to

Changed out the filter, put a new gasket on and reinstalled the pan. . Filled with 14 quarts atf fluid and test drove... . all good!!
Lessen learned: after a broken allen wrench, two corkscrewed allen wrenchs, a new brand on my arm, a trans oil stain on my driveway to remind me of this nightmare and more cuss words than a drunken sailor in Olongapo City... ... ... ... ... .
Hire someone to do this next time!!!!!!!!!!!!!