Travis,
I have seen tow packages NOT include the wiring on certain older vehicles. Often it would only include the heavy duty cooling, battery, turnsignal flasher and hitch. The electrics were added depending on application - 4 pin, 6 pin, 7 pin, etc. I can't say on the early gen 1 rams, though. My old '97 did not have the tow package so a little creative wiring was necessary. It did have the brake controller connector under the dash, sans the blue brake power wire. Some of the early factory tow harnesses were modified to add a relay that would use the lights on wire to energize the relay then use battery power to operate the tail/running lights on the trailer.
A little investigating may help. Find the pin in the 7-pin recepticle (or other recepticle) that goes to the tail/running lights. Trace that wire back and see if it goes to the PDC. If it does then you have a good chance that the relay will be effective. If you find it scotch-locked into the main chassis harness on the light circuit a modification will be necessary. Also, look down the recepticle in the PDC where the tow relay should go. You should see female spade electrical connectors in the openings.
BJ