Well i just finished my third oil change on my 2001 ram, and regardless of what I do it still seems to take three men and a small boy to loosen the oil filter. The first one was the worst (the filter came off in pieces), but even if I back off on tightening it (tighten by hand, then about a 1/4 turn with a wrench) it still takes me a half an hour and two visits from the neighbors asking me to watch my language. I oil the seal, and I'm not turning it more than the 3/4 turn that they say on the oil filter..... it almost seems that it self tightens a bit. Same with the drain plug, I just snug that up when I install it and it seems to self tighten to 18,000 lb-ft. 
Any suggestions?

Any suggestions?