Attention: TDR Forum Junkies 
Mike Ellis
TDR MEMBER
Batman,
I know you are all going through some tough times, in some ways it is harder to watch someone go through such suffering than to endure it yourself. The information you read on the Internet can crush your spirits quickly, the sites oriented to doctors are full of grim statistics, "the average patient" this, and the "expected survival" that. Sites oriented toward patients, and sites maintained by people actually suffering with the disease, can be even tougher to take - reading them can fill you with guilt that "I could have done this", or "I didn't do that", or even "I don't have the right outlook, so I am doomed".
You mention that your Dad is a strong-willed individual like yourself, visit some web sites that give you information on the things that you can do to try to fight the condition - sometimes it may seem like there isn't a lot a guy can actually do outside of waiting for the docs to do their thing, but in truth there are a lot of little things that can be done. You can find lots of encouraging info online about good nutritional supplements (check out IP6 for example, one formulation is sold under the "Cell Forte" brandname), guided imagery, relaxation/visualization techniques, support groups, etc - a huge improvement over the grim medical sites. It can be pretty tough for a strong-willed, hard-headed, can-do type of guy to have to sit back and feel like there is nothing they can do to help, so if you can find even a few small things that your Dad can do to feel like he is personally taking a swing at cancer's chin, it can make a big difference in his emotional outlook.
God bless you and your family, we will continue to pray for you
I know you are all going through some tough times, in some ways it is harder to watch someone go through such suffering than to endure it yourself. The information you read on the Internet can crush your spirits quickly, the sites oriented to doctors are full of grim statistics, "the average patient" this, and the "expected survival" that. Sites oriented toward patients, and sites maintained by people actually suffering with the disease, can be even tougher to take - reading them can fill you with guilt that "I could have done this", or "I didn't do that", or even "I don't have the right outlook, so I am doomed".
You mention that your Dad is a strong-willed individual like yourself, visit some web sites that give you information on the things that you can do to try to fight the condition - sometimes it may seem like there isn't a lot a guy can actually do outside of waiting for the docs to do their thing, but in truth there are a lot of little things that can be done. You can find lots of encouraging info online about good nutritional supplements (check out IP6 for example, one formulation is sold under the "Cell Forte" brandname), guided imagery, relaxation/visualization techniques, support groups, etc - a huge improvement over the grim medical sites. It can be pretty tough for a strong-willed, hard-headed, can-do type of guy to have to sit back and feel like there is nothing they can do to help, so if you can find even a few small things that your Dad can do to feel like he is personally taking a swing at cancer's chin, it can make a big difference in his emotional outlook.
God bless you and your family, we will continue to pray for you
