Thanks, I finally got it off. I wedged my didgital camera down in there and snapped a few pics. I found on mine an orange tab on the top that acually slid in from the side of the connector. I had to push a little tab on the left side down, then slide it out to the right side of the connector. this was in addition to the tab on top that you simply lift up to clear the post. the orange peice actually locks the connector in place.
Is this different than others? My new one (Mopar) did not have this.