He's not being "that picky", he's pointing out a glaring problem with modern shocks being Dark Ages design.
We raced motocross for many years. Suspension is EVERYTHING when it comes to winning races given equal riders. Even the most low-budget motocross bike has shocks that can be revalved and fine-tuned for the specific rider weight and track conditions and how it is used. And it isn't even hard once you've done it a time or two. The difference is absolutely phenomenal. Plus they have external clickers for adjusting the hi speed compression, low speed compression, hi speed rebound, and low speed rebound. It isn't hard to build shocks with these features that can take a massive beating, millions of dirtbikes have them, but it isn't as profitable and few people would ever crawl under their vehicle to finetune such shocks anyway.
The "one size fits all" valving in the overpriced junk that we buy for our trucks is a joke. You shouldn't have to pay outrageous prices for shocks that can be custom tuned and rebuilt, but that would take a huge money-maker off the market. We pay for clever marketing descriptions and gimmicks when we buy shocks; not for quality, well-designed products.
That said, if you can't afford the "exotic" few shocks that do offer real valving changes and fine tuning and rebuilding, at least consider adjustable shocks like Rancho RS9000's. They offer 9 settings and are as tough as can be expected from mass produced disposable shocks, but they do not offer separate rebound and compression damping setting adjustments.