1) I always thought it was hard on the drivetrain to run 4 low on dry pavement. But there was a guy with a 35 ft 5 er at Roan Mtn State Park (2012 CTD 2500)who said to get up the paved 12-15% grade, he puts it in 4 low and lets it idle up the hill.
He has the 68rfe. So, I guess I've been a bit too worried about short stints of 4x4 on dry pavement.
I did end up using 4x4 to back the travel trailer into tight spots up a steep uncline after first letting my clutch slip a bit too much. So steep, I was spinning rear wheels on dry pavement with limited slip differential.
2) When driving my dad's RV, I often shifted to neutral at stop lights. But the jolt is big on a 4.28 rear end when shifting back into gear. I guess the drivevtrain is made to withstand jolts. But was concerned about the increased number of jolts you get when shifting at stop lights. Seems like the increased number of jolts might put undue stress on u joints?