Oil coming out the dipstick tube (I presume you mean) would be excessive crank case pressures, or obstructed crank breather tube, which would be odd as you were highway driving not off roading.
Rough idle could be cylinder/piston, or a blown valve seal (which would explain the excessive crank pressures), or an injector/injection pump issue.
First off, verify that your crank case breather tube is not pinched or obstructed/plugged. Slight possibility that oil/dirt buildup inside the tube may have broke loose, briefly plugging the tube, pressure built up then it blew out - excessive oil now around the blowby tube exit.
While at idle, start breaking loose the injector lines and the one that makes little or no difference to the idle will be your problem cylinder. Remove the valve cover and inspect the valve springs, rockers and valve clearance (intake . 010 +/- . 005 - Exhaust . 020 +/- . 005 with the engine in the correct TDC position for that cylinder).
If it were me, given the excessive blowby, I would do a cylinder compression and leakage test to verify if it is valve clearance, valve seal, or piston/cylinder, then pop test the injectors since I have them out anyways.
Is it possible that you did not fully seat the oil dipstick last time you checked your oil level? Maybe a missing O-ring? Normal pressure will push oil out the dipstick tube if not seated or sealed, especially at the right angle while climbing/descending a hill or turning.
Engine temps sound normal for summer holiday mountain traffic driving (I gave up heading for the hills on a holiday weekend, I will not sit in traffic for 6 hours on a drive that should only take 2).