Borg Warner makes all the solenoids, the OE, the OE upgrade, and the GM style which is huge compared to OE specced for the Dodge. The GM style solenoid almost never has issues in the transmissions it is used in, and, is adjustable to a degree.
It is not always the solenoid that is the problem. This is a feed back closed loop system. The transducer reads gov pressure to the TCM so it can compare to wheel speed and output shaft speed parameters to tell the solenoid where it should set itself. If the transducer reads incorrectly, but within parameters, the solenoid sets incorrectly causing issues. If the solenoid does not set correctly the transducer reads incorrectly for demanded and the TCM tries to compensate causing shift issues. Many issues cannot be tracked to a particular piece because there are no codes set becuase the readings are within parameters. Its a limited system that relies on the pieces working correctly and when they don't the TCM cannot compensate correctly.
There is no upgrade for the transducer and it is the source of a lot of issues. All you can do is replace it when things start not working correctly.
The GM style solenoid at least removes a lot of the problems the OE style ones have with sticking when the fluid is not perfectly clean, or not working correctly at higher pressures. The way the gov manifold is designed and the strength of the solenoid make it a lot less supectible to fluid quality. It will also work more consistently at higher throttle opening when the pressures are higher or a shift kit is installed.
As for additional pieces, a shift kit is the best upgrade to the trans that can be made. The stock pressures are conducive to DD and NVH considerations, not hard usage or long life. The whole dsign from soft steels to lower friction clutches to low apply pressures creates a car like effect when driven normally. The problem with that is the steels wear fasterand burn, the frictions slip more leaving deposits in the fluid which further accelerates the deterioration of the frictions, steels, seals, and thrust washers. Planned obsolesence is about the best description I can think of.
A shift kit raise the apply pressures to stop a lot of this built in slip at the expense of the NVH feel. Personally, I will take an extended firm up shift and pronounced down shifts any day over the mushy stock feel, and, know the trans will last longer in all conditions doing it.
Along with a shift kit, the accumulator needs replaced with a billet verison and better seals. It is plastic with minimal o-ring sealing capability. It leaks pressure when a shift kit is installed and softens the shifts, bad for the over all process.
The front servo is designed work with stock pressures. It also leaks at higher pressures in multiple places. It also needs a billet replacement with better seals. The front servo is the key to timing the 2-3 shift and holding the power in direct. If it is bleeding off you have issues with shift timing and holding the TQ rise when the direct clutch pack is activated. Just an over size set of tires will eat the direct clutch pack in a lot of city driving.
The front band strut and anchor should also be replaced. The cast anchor will crack and the strut bend under higher pressures and power.
The caveat with doing all this moves the problem to the next weak spot, especially if you tow. The enhanced pressures transfer power better, and allow more power safely, but generate more heat and flex in the stamped steel TC cover. The OE design WILL fex under harder use, this causes the flex plate bolts to start working loose and walking in the holes. Once you get a twist going it can tear the center out of the flex plate and\or crack it. Depending on how hard you use the truck you MUST check these bolts periodically for tightness until the TC is replaced with a billet cover one.