vc--
With all due respect to Shendren, I still believe the nature of your symptoms suggest mechanical trouble, not electrical. Shendren suggests his fix is a "no cost solution". Maybe. But if I am right, I believe, and others have suggested, that you may indeed make your repair even more expensive by chewing up the transmission when the torque convertor is spewing its guts out into the transmission.
I still believe your TCC is slipping. More line pressure would help, but alone it is a band-aid fix. The Dodge transmission gets a bad rap and it is largely undeserved. The real problem when hopping up the power is overloading the TCC. It is only about 9 inches in diameter. My Toyota has a larger manual clutch disc (about 11 inches) and has to hold a killer 140 lbs-ft of torque.
I have personal experience with the BD convertor but I have to admit, based on the experience of 2 close friends (whose trucks I have driven) that the best money spent is for an ATS Triple-Loc convertor. But, (big suprise) it is the most expensive. ANY of the high-perf convertors are FAR superior to the stocker.
I have two '94 Cummins Turbo Diesels with a combined mileage total of 318,000 miles. My trailers include a 16 foot utility gooseneck and a 28 foot special purpose gooseneck, both which at times GVW out at 25,000 to 28,000 pounds. I do all my own maintenence, the only thing I won't do is bodywork. I believe this gives me some authority to speak intelligently on this subject.
vc, as always, this is my opinion and it, along with a quarter, might still get you a cup of coffee. I feel confident that you have done all you can do to rule out a low cost solution. The evidence now points to the torque convertor, and like health problems, those ignored usually end up becoming more serious.
Good luck!