Well, I'm sure that since your buddy has never seen it, it couldn't possibly happen. Has he seen a HPCR 5. 9 drop a valve seat? Has he seen a dt 466 loose liner seals? How about vp 44's, has he seen one of those bad? Any engine can have any kind of failure, despite the best maintenance.
As to the failure we still haven't torn it down yet. When the new long block gets in ill swap components then I'll be a lot closer to diagnosing the failure. The customer was towing a large trailer at highway speeds for a long time before the failure. I'm thinking either an injectors failure hydro locking a cylinder, valve stem breaking or ?????