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Treat your wife with respect and courtesy. Talk issues out. I have never heard a diesel driving man say yes dear,no dear,you are right dear,sorry dear. Maybe I'm living under a rock. Good luck and happy life. J. M. Knight
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Girl v Boy stuff - Brace Yoursleves
Word Up! (that means LISTEN to me when I say this - it may save your marriage)
Considerations:
Most couples are on a limited budget just starting out.
If you didn't grow up with any sisters in your home as I did that’s another strike.
Here's my advise. I’ll refer to it as Ben Rumson Chapter 1 verse 2: Don't say a single word to your wife about buying “girl things” including feminine hygiene products, lipstick, hair spray, panty hose (which by the way are constantly tearing and need to be replaced constantly). The life expectancy of a typical pair of panty hose is roughly 4 weeks - tops! – get used to it. Also included are hair bows, curling irons, mascara, rouge, eyeliner, etc. In case you thought you got off easy, I’m not done yet. Also included are fake nails, hair tinting, perms, hair cuts and trims 10 times more often then a man! Are you starting to get the picture?
If you don't get my point by now, let me be explicitly clear. Women "NEED" these things like a young family on a shoestring budget needs bread and milk. They are one in the same. They are NOT optional or discretionary - in the eyes of your wife. In some cases, they are more necessary than bread and milk. I kid you not. Keep listening, I'm not done yet.
I’m guessing that you, like most guys, feel that fishing and hunting licenses, fishing tackle, bullets and shells, fanny packs, ice hole augers and ice fishing huts, gas to and from your favorite fishing/hunting spot are not optional and are absolutely necessary and shouldn’t count in the same way as the girls stuff mentioned earlier. But wait, the same is true for new OEM or after-market injectors, turbos, exhaust systems, an upgraded fuel delivery system, gauges, brush guards, off-road driving lights, an after-market transmission with high performance valve body and cryo’d input shaft, after-market differential and transmission covers and pans, (practically everything sold in Geno's Garage), synthetic lubes, winter fuel additives, etc.
Here it is black and white: DON'T SAY A WORD to your new bride about all of the stuff that she buys to take care of herself. She needs/does this for her self esteem AND so she can look her very best for YOU! When you look in the shopping sack, keep your pie hole shut and let her do her thing. Don't you dare look at the sales receipt and price her things. Don't comment on how much the girls items cost. If you do, shame on you, that's not fair. You’ll buy things that you feel are necessary too. You each have things that you feel are important. You each may also feel like the other person’s carelessly spending money on things that you can’t afford and are not necessary. Do you use disposable razors?
After 23 years of marriage, I've grown to learn that my man things are much more self serving than her girl things - like I said, she buys and does a lot of things to look better for ME and in some cases for her own self esteem (which by the way, you CANNOT put a price on).
I entered our marriage thinking that most of her girl stuff was a complete waste and nothing but a revolving money pit. Not true. This stuff is Mission Critical for your happiness. Just how necessary are those new pair of hiking boots that you "must" have next season? Don’t question or belittle purchases that she believes are necessary if you don’t want her to do the same to you.
I hope you've also realized that the guy items/"needs" I’ve mentioned will certainly cost a lot more than the girl items I mentioned. Again, don't compare receipts and don't keep a running total of who's spent the most money on girl v boy things. Many guys would lose miserably.
A few years back I argued and rationalized that my previous truck (’94 that sold with 205,000 miles and NEVER and engine problem what so ever) "needed" some major/costly mods/enhancements - even though it was running fine at the time (love that CUMMINS!). My wife was very accepting and supportive even though it cost us dearly in the pocket book.
When your new bride comes home with her girl stuff (which she WILL), and perhaps have only a small block of cheese instead of a large one, hopefully you won't be too surprised. I hope you’ll have a better understanding of what to possibly expect. Try and keep an open mind and keep your words and thoughts to yourself. LOOK THE OTHER WAY, SHUT YOUR PIE HOLE, and DON'T SAY A WORD – even if you have to eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for weeks on end. It’s worth it.
I'm 46 years old and I’ve been married the last 23 of them. There's very few things I actually "know" and this is one of them.
Best wishes on your new lives!
- Ben Rumson
BTW: Between you and me, we’re in the wrong business. Those panty hose companies have a great racket going. Every buyer is a repeat buyer – over and over again with little advertising and limited marketing to produce that repeat sale. I bet they have quicker inventory turn-around and higher profit margins than most tire companies, maybe even the common disposable ink pen.
Word Up! (that means LISTEN to me when I say this - it may save your marriage)
Considerations:
Most couples are on a limited budget just starting out.
If you didn't grow up with any sisters in your home as I did that’s another strike.
Here's my advise. I’ll refer to it as Ben Rumson Chapter 1 verse 2: Don't say a single word to your wife about buying “girl things” including feminine hygiene products, lipstick, hair spray, panty hose (which by the way are constantly tearing and need to be replaced constantly). The life expectancy of a typical pair of panty hose is roughly 4 weeks - tops! – get used to it. Also included are hair bows, curling irons, mascara, rouge, eyeliner, etc. In case you thought you got off easy, I’m not done yet. Also included are fake nails, hair tinting, perms, hair cuts and trims 10 times more often then a man! Are you starting to get the picture?
If you don't get my point by now, let me be explicitly clear. Women "NEED" these things like a young family on a shoestring budget needs bread and milk. They are one in the same. They are NOT optional or discretionary - in the eyes of your wife. In some cases, they are more necessary than bread and milk. I kid you not. Keep listening, I'm not done yet.
I’m guessing that you, like most guys, feel that fishing and hunting licenses, fishing tackle, bullets and shells, fanny packs, ice hole augers and ice fishing huts, gas to and from your favorite fishing/hunting spot are not optional and are absolutely necessary and shouldn’t count in the same way as the girls stuff mentioned earlier. But wait, the same is true for new OEM or after-market injectors, turbos, exhaust systems, an upgraded fuel delivery system, gauges, brush guards, off-road driving lights, an after-market transmission with high performance valve body and cryo’d input shaft, after-market differential and transmission covers and pans, (practically everything sold in Geno's Garage), synthetic lubes, winter fuel additives, etc.
Here it is black and white: DON'T SAY A WORD to your new bride about all of the stuff that she buys to take care of herself. She needs/does this for her self esteem AND so she can look her very best for YOU! When you look in the shopping sack, keep your pie hole shut and let her do her thing. Don't you dare look at the sales receipt and price her things. Don't comment on how much the girls items cost. If you do, shame on you, that's not fair. You’ll buy things that you feel are necessary too. You each have things that you feel are important. You each may also feel like the other person’s carelessly spending money on things that you can’t afford and are not necessary. Do you use disposable razors?
After 23 years of marriage, I've grown to learn that my man things are much more self serving than her girl things - like I said, she buys and does a lot of things to look better for ME and in some cases for her own self esteem (which by the way, you CANNOT put a price on).
I entered our marriage thinking that most of her girl stuff was a complete waste and nothing but a revolving money pit. Not true. This stuff is Mission Critical for your happiness. Just how necessary are those new pair of hiking boots that you "must" have next season? Don’t question or belittle purchases that she believes are necessary if you don’t want her to do the same to you.
I hope you've also realized that the guy items/"needs" I’ve mentioned will certainly cost a lot more than the girl items I mentioned. Again, don't compare receipts and don't keep a running total of who's spent the most money on girl v boy things. Many guys would lose miserably.
A few years back I argued and rationalized that my previous truck (’94 that sold with 205,000 miles and NEVER and engine problem what so ever) "needed" some major/costly mods/enhancements - even though it was running fine at the time (love that CUMMINS!). My wife was very accepting and supportive even though it cost us dearly in the pocket book.
When your new bride comes home with her girl stuff (which she WILL), and perhaps have only a small block of cheese instead of a large one, hopefully you won't be too surprised. I hope you’ll have a better understanding of what to possibly expect. Try and keep an open mind and keep your words and thoughts to yourself. LOOK THE OTHER WAY, SHUT YOUR PIE HOLE, and DON'T SAY A WORD – even if you have to eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for weeks on end. It’s worth it.
I'm 46 years old and I’ve been married the last 23 of them. There's very few things I actually "know" and this is one of them.
Best wishes on your new lives!
- Ben Rumson
BTW: Between you and me, we’re in the wrong business. Those panty hose companies have a great racket going. Every buyer is a repeat buyer – over and over again with little advertising and limited marketing to produce that repeat sale. I bet they have quicker inventory turn-around and higher profit margins than most tire companies, maybe even the common disposable ink pen.
Find a good florist close to where she works. Women love getting flowers at work and they especially love getting them for no apparent reason. I personally make up bizarre saints days and send a small arrangment in honor of some epiphany or other.
A special arrangment of her favorites for birthdays and special occassions is also recommended(See first suggestion)
I have been married thirty years, by way of credentials.
A special arrangment of her favorites for birthdays and special occassions is also recommended(See first suggestion)
I have been married thirty years, by way of credentials.
Enough BS!!!
Most of these posts are full of little jokes.
Coincidentally, joking is what keeps a marriage strong. Laugh and have fun together at every opportunity. It's hard to laugh if there is no trust. But laughter leads to happiness which leads trust. Take just enough fun; add a little humility; sprinkle on lots of spontaneity; mix in a dash of surprise along with sensuality; roll out the dough (in bed) often; bake it on your turbo; and voila... Love.
Make this your new reality, think it, feel it, believe it: "My wife is my best friend, confidant, and lover!"
Most of these posts are full of little jokes.
Coincidentally, joking is what keeps a marriage strong. Laugh and have fun together at every opportunity. It's hard to laugh if there is no trust. But laughter leads to happiness which leads trust. Take just enough fun; add a little humility; sprinkle on lots of spontaneity; mix in a dash of surprise along with sensuality; roll out the dough (in bed) often; bake it on your turbo; and voila... Love. Make this your new reality, think it, feel it, believe it: "My wife is my best friend, confidant, and lover!"
Recipe for a successful marriage
I've really enjoyed reading the posts from other TDR members and I'd like to add my 2 cents worth. Many years ago, our kids bought a book titled Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray and gave it to me (dad). It was probably the best thing that could have happened. For example, I learned that women are visual navigators, using landmarks when finding their way, like a resturant, or other very visible permanent point near a turn. Men, on the other hand, mostly navigate by "dead reckoning" or a spatial relationship, 2 miles north, then 3 miles east, etc. This helps us when navigating to know how each of us navigates. Both work and both are right and neither is wrong, just different. Another good item for a long marriage is that when the wife comes home from work and wants to tell her husband how the day was, just listen. Don't offer suggestions on how to fix things unless she asks. Most of us men, gearheads, mechanics, or whatever consider the ways to fix what we have perceived what went wrong. What went wrong, however, is just because the wife just wants to download her day to a sypmathetic ear. Finally, I'm the husband who, on our 25th wedding (silver) anniversary in 1991 bought a used Airstream (it's silver) trailer. She loved it and we're still trekking around in our 3rd Airstream trailer with 44 years of marriage coming up in June, 2010.
I've really enjoyed reading the posts from other TDR members and I'd like to add my 2 cents worth. Many years ago, our kids bought a book titled Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray and gave it to me (dad). It was probably the best thing that could have happened. For example, I learned that women are visual navigators, using landmarks when finding their way, like a resturant, or other very visible permanent point near a turn. Men, on the other hand, mostly navigate by "dead reckoning" or a spatial relationship, 2 miles north, then 3 miles east, etc. This helps us when navigating to know how each of us navigates. Both work and both are right and neither is wrong, just different. Another good item for a long marriage is that when the wife comes home from work and wants to tell her husband how the day was, just listen. Don't offer suggestions on how to fix things unless she asks. Most of us men, gearheads, mechanics, or whatever consider the ways to fix what we have perceived what went wrong. What went wrong, however, is just because the wife just wants to download her day to a sypmathetic ear. Finally, I'm the husband who, on our 25th wedding (silver) anniversary in 1991 bought a used Airstream (it's silver) trailer. She loved it and we're still trekking around in our 3rd Airstream trailer with 44 years of marriage coming up in June, 2010.
I am on marriage #4 so I consider myself somewhat of an expert of "what not to do". I know, I know but I didn't ride a bicycle the 1st time I tried.
anyway
Here are my "top ten" of "what not to do's!!
10) Don't say "my mother was a really good cook" not cool
9) Don't say "your butt looks like I hit it with a bag of nickels" she won't :-laf
8) Don't say "so and so" is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen
7) Don't say "I'm not lost" when you know you are:-{}
6) Don't say you love your truck, dog or bass boat more than you love your wife :{
5) Don't drink too much too often
4) if you rope marry a woman who ropes, if you fish marry a woman who likes to fish, if you golf marry a woman who likes to golf (you get the drift)
3) Don't crawl into bed unless it's your own
2) Don't unzip your pants unless you are at home, keep them zipped
1) Make yourself easier to "live with" than "live without"
Best of luck to you! Remember flowers, cards, notes, all of the things you did to make her fall in love with you. Continue them always. Surprise her with kind acts of love.
anyway
Here are my "top ten" of "what not to do's!!
10) Don't say "my mother was a really good cook" not cool
9) Don't say "your butt looks like I hit it with a bag of nickels" she won't :-laf
8) Don't say "so and so" is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen
7) Don't say "I'm not lost" when you know you are:-{}
6) Don't say you love your truck, dog or bass boat more than you love your wife :{
5) Don't drink too much too often
4) if you rope marry a woman who ropes, if you fish marry a woman who likes to fish, if you golf marry a woman who likes to golf (you get the drift)
3) Don't crawl into bed unless it's your own
2) Don't unzip your pants unless you are at home, keep them zipped
1) Make yourself easier to "live with" than "live without"
Best of luck to you! Remember flowers, cards, notes, all of the things you did to make her fall in love with you. Continue them always. Surprise her with kind acts of love.
Best Friends...44 years married this May...
Here is what I know that worked for the last 44 years.
Never go to bed mad at each other... talk and work things out... end it with a goodnight kiss always
Try and be each others best friend... no secrets, complete trust.
Don't fight over money... not the most important thing in life... chances are you will never have enough... . so enjoy what you have.
Do things together as much as possible... remember she is your best friend.
A single red rose goes a long way to make her happy... . or any small gift... . remember it is the thought that counts.
Be there for each other when times get tough and they will... but they are easier to go through with someone by your side.
When you buy your Harley after 40 years of marriage be sure that it is comfortable enough for two.....
Good luck to you guys... . may you all make it past 44 years...
Here is what I know that worked for the last 44 years.
Never go to bed mad at each other... talk and work things out... end it with a goodnight kiss always
Try and be each others best friend... no secrets, complete trust.
Don't fight over money... not the most important thing in life... chances are you will never have enough... . so enjoy what you have.
Do things together as much as possible... remember she is your best friend.
A single red rose goes a long way to make her happy... . or any small gift... . remember it is the thought that counts.
Be there for each other when times get tough and they will... but they are easier to go through with someone by your side.
When you buy your Harley after 40 years of marriage be sure that it is comfortable enough for two.....
Good luck to you guys... . may you all make it past 44 years...
well, good luck guys! i hate to veer off the subject, but i am pretty sure i am learning alot of things, reading the comments from other members! back to the main reason. always remember your immediate family, no matter how big or small. and please, dont take anyone, or anything for granted! best of wishes
I posted earlier for your future advise, But what happened yesterday, I Thought I would relate also for your future-future advise.
I was putting away my tools from my manifold install and my wife came out and said,
"let me help organize your tools and offer some advise" of which she started to do. I just stood there while she finished, I'm laughing inside to my self. What prompted this was, earlier she was cleaning out the frig, and re-organizing it, and I offered some advise on how maybe she could to it with a little more efficientcy. BIG MISTAKE, SO I guess what goes around, comes around. We do have a bit of fun.
Have a happy life!! you guys.
I was putting away my tools from my manifold install and my wife came out and said,
"let me help organize your tools and offer some advise" of which she started to do. I just stood there while she finished, I'm laughing inside to my self. What prompted this was, earlier she was cleaning out the frig, and re-organizing it, and I offered some advise on how maybe she could to it with a little more efficientcy. BIG MISTAKE, SO I guess what goes around, comes around. We do have a bit of fun.
Have a happy life!! you guys.
bighammer
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One of the most memorable gifts I gave my wife was flowers-- Gave the florist credit card info and her preferred flowers/colors and every other Monday they delivered a new arrangement to her office.
(just one example how a forgotten occasion can be turned around in the last moments)
And the Winner Is ... .
Drum roll please . . . .
The winner of the FASS for FREE Titanium System is . . . Cecil4x4! The staff of the TDR and Geno's Garage orchestrated a truly random drawing. They threw all of the entries into the air, and the one that landed in a USPS mail box (no kidding) was the winner! Cecil4x4, you've got some more good luck!
And the crowd cheered!
And we also wanted to let at least one of the brides pick a winner too. So we asked Heather Knutsen to take a look and pick a runner-up winner for us. This lucky individual gets a $100 gift certificate to Geno's Garage and a complimentary renewal to the Turbo Diesel Register! She selected entry #43 by johnnyboy_10138! Nice work for a single guy (wink)!
Salute!
I will be contacting each of you to get your prizes shipped right out.
And check back in tomorrow. Geno's is sponsoring the next give-away. Details to be announced later.
Drum roll please . . . .
The winner of the FASS for FREE Titanium System is . . . Cecil4x4! The staff of the TDR and Geno's Garage orchestrated a truly random drawing. They threw all of the entries into the air, and the one that landed in a USPS mail box (no kidding) was the winner! Cecil4x4, you've got some more good luck!
And the crowd cheered!
And we also wanted to let at least one of the brides pick a winner too. So we asked Heather Knutsen to take a look and pick a runner-up winner for us. This lucky individual gets a $100 gift certificate to Geno's Garage and a complimentary renewal to the Turbo Diesel Register! She selected entry #43 by johnnyboy_10138! Nice work for a single guy (wink)!
Salute!
I will be contacting each of you to get your prizes shipped right out.
And check back in tomorrow. Geno's is sponsoring the next give-away. Details to be announced later.
Thanks Heather! Glad that consilation prize was there, and congratulations Cecil4x4!
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