Having more pain than ever in my life

[nps]

Chris,



I am preparing for the loss of my wife of 24 years. Together we watched her father die on Christmas Eve. The pain is deep but time will heal. Others in your life will help you overcome your pain and seemingly endless grief.



You will never forget her, however God has blessed you with your children to help sustain you through these difficult times. My prayers will extend to you and your family.



Perhaps 1 Peter 4:1-2 will offer some comfort.



May God bless you, your family, and the soul of your beloved wife.



Neil Snyder

 

[TDRadmin]

Prayers

My heart goes out to you and your children. I will keep you and your family in my heart and prayers.



Robin

TDR Admin

 

[dieselshu]

I Am Sorry For Your Loss!!!

Chris, Buddy I am totally shocked and sorrowed for your loss, I cant imagine what you must be going thru, you know you have 20k shoulders to lean on here on TDR, dont be afraid to ask for help. If I can help I will do what I can! My prayers are with you and the children.



Dave Shuart :{

Wind Lake, WI

 

[Turbo Tim 1]

WOW, I can't even imagine what you are going through, I wish I had some brilliant words of encouragement but I don't. The only thing I know is that my father went into his shell after my mother died and it hasn't been good for him, almost 10 years later he just sits around the house and doesn't do anything. You need to continue moving forward if for nothing else, for the kids. My prayers are with you

 

[JakeGMCHD]

Chris, Sorry to hear of your loss. You are in my thoughts. If I can help you in any way just PM me.

 

[scotty1]

I am so very sorry that you and your children have had this happen.



Let the tears flow, be strong for your kids when you can and let it out as often as you need to.



My sincere condolences to you.



PM or email whenever.



You are with a strong team here.



Scotty

 

[Champane Flight]

Hold them tight.

Hold your children tight, this is a loss that effects you all. Together you will heal. My prayers are with you. .

Lance

 

[Alphacowboy]

Chris, ya got my prayers man! I seriously had my hair on the back of my neck and arms raise up when reading this... . I am so sorry! Now I really feel like a shmuck, as I totally forgot about the headlight I was suppose to ship to ya! tell ya what, its on me, dont worry about it, you can have it for nothing!





Ya might be confused and mad, but God will help you through it, even if you might feel kinda ticked at him for this happening, he will get you and your girls through this!



Give me a call if ya need to chat man!



Also, how far from Albert Lea MN are you? I am going to be down there all this next week, if its not to far, maybe I will hand deliver it for ya, and maybe a hug for ya to, as I bet you could use one!



-Matt

 

[rhino_50]

Sorry to hear of the lose of your wife. I can't Imagine the pain you are going through. But hang tough things will get better over time. My thoughts and prayers to your family. Rhino50

 

[Kissfan113]

Chris,

I am so sorry to hear that. I had chatted with you wife before when thinking it was you on the msn messenger. I hate to hear that, she seemed like an amazing and caring person. I have no idea what to say as i have never been in that situation but it has to be overwhealming, I wish the best to you and yours, and any time you need to chat, feel free to hit me up if i am online, i am always there to listen and talk.

Best wishes from here on out.

Kevin

 

[CLiberty]

I am so very sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[SHobbs]

Words can't describe what you are feeling right now or at least none I could say. What I will say is I am sorry for your loss and I hope that you and your kids will find a way through this tragedy. Hairs on the back of my neck stood up as well, I can't imagine what you are going through.



As stated earlier those of us here in the TDR are with you and you and your kids are in our prayers, anything you need or the kids need just shout. I will do part to help out in any way I can.



I am truly sorry for your loss.



Scott

 

[Bob Wagner]

chris, you and your family our in our prayers. I will pray every day.

 

[Beach]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Don't be afraid to cry, get it out. It's not good to hold in the pain, but try to stay busy and keep your chin up. If you sit around too much it will only drag you down more. I know it's gotta be overwhelming right now, but it takes time to heal from something like this. God has a plan for everyone. Thing's will only get better with time. All your kid's need is reassurance that daddy will be there, and to hear that you love them! It doesn't hurt to pray either,even though you may be angry with god, he doe's love and listen! My prayer's are with you and the kid's, and remember, we're hear for you. God Bless!!

 

[KBennett]

Chris,

You are in our thoughts and prayers as well. I wish I was nearby to offer some assistance.

God Bless,

Kirk

 

[JCasper]

Chris,



Sorry to hear about your loss. I will be sure to keep you and your family in my prayers.

 

[CSnyder]

As I sit here and read through all of your messages to me and my family I cannot put into words my appreciation for the kind words and encouragement that all of you have. I'm not sure what happens next but I know I need to be here for my children right now and I've got good family and great friends around me all the time. I managed to get thru the funeral home arrangements and buying the plot and going over the church sermon and music and such today and all thats left is buying the flowers for the casket which I will take care of in the morning when it feels right. I will be having her visitation at 4-8 pm on Tuesday and the service at 1 pm on Wednesday and from there I can perhaps figure things out. As of right now I am going to have my mom keep the kids until I can get a nanny hired full time to help me. I own my own business and I'm financially stable enough to stay home for some time so that will help. I also have a sister from Detroit who is gonna stay with me for at least a month until she knows I'm feeling stable enough to carry on with life and my children. I was very worried about her family wanting her buried near them in St Loius but they all seem to agree that she loved our home here and her children will always call Iowa home and they really need to be able to see her growing up. Once again I want to express my gratitude for all the kind words and encouragement and I promise to keep everyone informed on our progress.



God Bless, Chris Snyder

 

[Steve St.Laurent]

I haven't posted until now because I can't find the words. I'm so sorry to hear about your families loss and I've been thinking about you and your kids since I read this last night. I can't imagine what you are going through right now. Maybe try and see if you can find a local support group for people in your situation - I bet there is one and any local hospital could probably point you to it. Remember - asking for help/leaning on others isn't a sign of weakness.

 

[HEMI®Dart]

My heart goes out to you and your children. I will keep you and your family in my heart and prayers.

 

[MMiller]

Wow, I've missed this thread completely until somebody stepped into the Iowa forum and told us about it. I too will pray for you and your family. Sounds like you inlaws are being supportive of you too, thats wonderful. I hope that this week goes smoothly for you and your children. I've helped raise a little boy since his father died 7 long years ago. It has been rough, its hard to try to explain to a 2 year old where his dad is at. I don't have the answers, except let the Lord help, and let your friends and family help. Count me in too, if you need something, all you have to do is ask. If you need something hauled for you business, remember there is a dodge CTD and 32' gooseneck trailer here in southern Iowa that can help out on the weekends.



Michael Miller