Having more pain than ever in my life

[Batman]

Chris, my heart and prayers go out to you, your children, and your family. I wish you he best.

George

 

[JLEONARD]

Chris,

Hang in there the best you can. You need to pull your family thru this. You have my heart felt sympathy.

Jay

 

[4xquadrod]

There are not any words I know of that would make this better. So surround yourself with as much family and freinds as you can.

God Bless
Steve

 

[MDW]

Keep your chin up.

Life can really hurt sometimes.

There just isnt any words.

My heart goes out to you.

Sounds like you have loving people around you.

LEAN on them.

It may take awhile but soon you will be able to do this again



Michael

 

[kiwi bird]

So sorry to hear Chris. I found keeping a diary helped me when I lost my parents suddenly, I balled my eyes out writing in it and it helped. I wrote a lot of stuff I wished I'd said, talked about problems.

 

[CumminsAholic]

My thoughts and prayers go out to you Chris... I Don't know what else to say, I can't imagine what you're going through.

Corey

 

[TWilkening]

Chris, I pray that the good Lord will give you strength during this terrible time. I can't even begin to fathom the immense grief you must be feeling. As many have said, you have 20 thousand shoulders to lean on. I realize we're on separate ends of the state, but if you feel there's anything I can do for you, don't hesitate to ask. Again, I pray God will give you and your family strength during this terrible time.

 

[jct8fan]

Sorry. I can not even express nor do I have and words to tell you on how I feel.



May God always be with you and God bless you and your family



Jim

 

[rono]

Man oh Man. I'm not going to say I know how you feel, cause there is no way I can. Please know that God is there and will help you get thru this. It's going to take a while but with friends and family it can be done. I think I can say that almost everyone on the TDR site is a friend to you and will be willing to do whatever we can to help if you need us. Our Prayers go out for you and the kids. Please feel free to call, pm or phone if you need to talk.

903-769-2482.

God Bless, Ron

 

[Hohn]

I lost my wife of 3 years today in a head on auto accident and I am so hurt and confused and lost already. We have 3 children together with the youngest being 2 year old twins and I'm unsure of whats going to happen with my life from here out. I know I need to be strong for our children but Carrie always took care of everything and was always my shoulder to cry on and I haven't the faintest idea how to be a mommy. I've shed enough tears today to fill a small ocean and I REALLY need some words of encouragement to help me survive the worst hurt of my life.



Chris

Chris, I cannot even begin to imagine how much hurt you must be feeling. No words of mine could reduce your pain.



I pray that the grace and peace of Jesus Christ would come into your life and that the gaping hole in your heart would be touched and healed.



Please PM me if you'd like. Or if you just need to talk to someone, you know you have friends here.



jh

 

[Rd.Runnr]

I am so very sorry to get this news. No way I can fathom your grief. God bless you & your family at this time.

 

[CSnyder]

Well it's been the longest hardest week of my life and once again I'm unable to sleep without bad dreams. I finally was able to eat for the first time since Sunday tonight without it upsetting my stomach even though it was just a couple finger sandwiches. I have been going to see my children each day at my parents and it helps alot but I can't wait to bring them home. I have been searching high and low trying to locate a nanny with no luck. I paid over 500 dollars out to online agencies that only get me replies from women in Russia, Vietnam, Brazil, etc that will cost me several thousand just to get them here. I have all but given up! I am missing my wife so very much and when I lay in bed and expect that warm loving person to be there for me and all I feel is cold sheets I start getting cold sweats and dry heaving. I just want all this pain to go away and let me continue for the kids. My attorney called yesterday and told me that he is filing the wrongful death suit Monday unless I tell him otherwise, but I just can't make a decision on what to do, it will never bring her back to me and the kids. Everything is just causing so much stress and my brain feels like it's coming out my ears. I can't even begin to express my appreciation for all the words of encouragement that have helped me come through this so far. I have read and reread all your messages at least 10 times each and have shared this as well with my family and close friends. One of my wife's greatest passions was driving my truck and she would take it to town any chance she could. She was very supportive of me attending TDR meets and making some VERY good friends on here and she would be so happy that all of you guys are here for me now. I know she talked to several of you herself between the phone calls and messengers and she always relayed messages from you guys. I'm going to include a photo of her with my son so you fellows who had visited with her can put a face to her voice. I have learned in all this as well that it is important to live each day to the fullest because you may not have another chance. Thanks again, Chris

 

[Mike Ellis]

If you can't find a nanny, maybe a local church has a daycare operation that can watch the kiddos while you are at work. My niece works at one here in Texas, her class is 2 and 3 year old. It is not necessarily a great long-term solution, but if there is such a place near you it might work until you find a nanny.



May God bless you and your family Chris, we are thinking of you and praying for you out here in TDR land.

 

[Elite1]

Chris, Thanks for the update. A buddy of mine recently lost his wife, I had lunch with him yesterday. I know he tells me it feels like he is in a whirlwind & on a rollercoaster at the same time, emotionally. He also has young children & he feels very lost.



I think Mike has an excellent idea, re: local churches. I would tend to stay away from the agencies, as they are in it for the $. I believe it is a good idea to walk into a few local churches and introduce yourself, explain to the pastor or administrator what just happened in your life, then give them your business card and tell them that you need a nanny & maybe some woman in their congregation would like the job. I'll bet that there is some nice woman with good morals just waiting to help you take care of your children. Maybe a widow or a young woman without a job...



Take care... one day at a time... Regards, Marty

 

[nps]

Chris,



Good to hear from you. She looks like a fine woman and excellent mother in the picture - I'm sure God will take good care of her.



If expenses are tight for childcare, then the wrongful death filing your attorney is recommending sounds legitimate and just. I would consider it to help solve one part of the problems that your loss has created in your life.



Hang in there and lean on your friends/family.



Neil

 

[Paychk]

If expenses are tight for childcare, then the wrongful death filing your attorney is recommending sounds legitimate and just. I would consider it to help solve one part of the problems that your loss has created in your life.

Agree 100%

 

[CSnyder]

Guys don't get me wrong on the wrongful death suit. It's not about the childcare or needing money but the person responsible for my wife being dead owes my children way more than what we will sue for. By doing the illegal thing that person did they took away my wife and the kids mother permanently and the money will never bring her back to us but it will help them when they get older. I feel it's inappropriate to go into the details and such in an open forum and maybe down the road I will further explain it all, but everyone in my family and my immediate friends know what happened and they all feel like the suit HAS to be done to teach the person a lesson. I will say that the suit will not directly effect the person named in the suit as they have insurance to cover this sort of thing or i would do way more thinking on the subject before filing it. Another point is even my pastor believes the suit needs to be filed. I hope you guys don't think less of me for doing that as I'm in no means trying to capitalize on the loss of my wife that I love with all my heart. Once again I appreciate all the words of encouragement and support that you have all shown during the past week. I will never turn my back on any of you in a time of need and will do whatever I can to help you.

Chris Snyder

 

[SHobbs]

Chris



Go ahead with the suit, yes I know it won't bring you lovely wife back and it won't take away the pain, loss and anguish you and your family is suffering. Take whatever you get out of the suit and use it wisely for whatever you need. Put some in trusts for your kids or put it back for their education. I know here in Texas if you put money in a college fund now the cost is locked in and will not increase when the kiddos get ready to go.

I do agree that the person responsible is liable and should be held accountable for their actions. It is ultimately your choice whether to file or not and at the least do it for your kids to help take care of them. Having a teenager getting ready to go to college and driving and all that good stuff believe me every little bit helps.



I know I am way down here in Texas and as I stated in my earlier post if there is anything that I can do for you feel free to PM and let me know. I will do whatever I can. I wish you and your family nothing but the best in this tragic time.



Scott

 

[RKraft]

Chris,

I am truely sorry for your family's lose. You are in our prayers, and if you need anything please feel to ask anyone of use here in Minnesota or any where for help. I am located south of the cities and if you do need a hand or anything I am there to help out. I know it is not the same but I was in a head on car crash on Sept 2nd 2005 when someone crossed center line and hit me head on. It has been hard on my family being laid up for 3 month I could not even imagen what you are going through. So if you need anything or need to talk about anything please give me a call 612-910-0322.



Randy

 

[outlawram]

Chris,

Sorry for your loss. I was there shortly after it happened. Stay strong and pull through this. Keep family around so you can keep your mind on other things. I usually get up that way every other weekend. If you want to you can give me a call anytime. email- -- email address removed --. It makes me sick about all the rumors floating around up there. I went to school with the other guys kid. Remember, if you need anything just let me know. Cory