You know, I have enjoyed being a moderator very much... It is one of those things that brings me a lot, in the form of friendship, fun, a little info, and being moderator lets me repay, in a small way, that debt.
There are times, however, when I'm ready to throw in the towel and not come back... Not because those who were my friends suddenly weren't, but because I am suddenly in the position of being a bad guy, for doing nothing more than the best I can to help things run as they should. Not that <i> I </i> make any of the decisions, but often I am asked for my thoughts on issues and events. In fact, all the moderators are asked for input on a regular basis, and we all face the decision of having to say if we do or do not think someone should be removed or something be shut down. That's not a decision any of us want to make.
Now, that's how I <i><b> feel </i></b>. But I've learned that just because I <i><b> feel </i></b> like doing something, it doesn't mean I just do it immediately.
Everyone who joined this board clicked a little button that said they AGREED to live by the rules, and, I have to say, that with membership well past 8000, I still find it almost amazing that we actually have as little argument and public brawling as we do. I'm sure that some rules don't make sense to everyone, and in fact, I'm sure that even if you read them, you're not going to get exactly the same interpretation... there's going to roughly 8000 different interpretations, and a couple hundred "huh?" responses
Everyone who uses this board has the right to expect that the rules be followed. They are as much to make it good for you, as for any other purpose. As far as I can tell, none of them are for my benefit as a moderator, the admin's benefit, or the management and ownership's benefit. It's just to make it work smoothly - and we as moderators and the management have tried our best to make it so.
When you ask us to allow someone back, or protest what happens when someone doesn't follow hte guidelines, you're asking to have the rules bent for someone, while applying them to everyone else. What would we be, if we did that? What would TDR be if we just let the combative types monopolize the conversation and polarize everything? It would be empty, that's what.
So it boils down to this: The more gas is tossed on the fire, the less likely a good outcome. And, I say that as an observer, not as the decision maker.
Overall, however, I want to repeat... TDR has to be the best collection of 8000 + people on the internet. I have never been part of any forum before that was this large, yet ran this smooth, and had this little controversy going on. For that, I want to thank all of you who participate - it's a debt I owe you, for my own enjoyment.
Mark